Which province are you in?

My OBGYN tells me the exact same thing about weight, she makes it seem like I'm obese, and that weight loss is the magic cure. Lol!

I'm overweight and in the same situation though. I have no motivation to do anything extreme about it because I just feel like the medical issues are stopping me from ever losing anything except a couple of pounds.

Don't feel like you're the only one :)

I'm sorry you aren't able to see a specialist right now. I strongly believe infertility hinders losing weight. I gained weight after my surgeries for endometriosis and cervical cancer 2 years ago. Then I didn't have a period or ovulate for almost a year and a half. I think the weight gain was a combo of medical issues/medication induced menopause and stress. When I finally saw a specialist this past August, I miraculously got my period the next day and thought something was wrong since I hadn't bled in so long. At that point I had lost about 15lbs. I think that was a product of weight loss and hope that someone actually cared enough to help me get pregnant. Then 2 months later I met with another specialist and she did an ultrasound and told me I was about to ovulate. At that point I had lost a little more weight, but again, I thought it was a crazy coincidence. I asked that doc at my next appt if she thought I should lose more weight before starting treatment, and she felt really strongly about doing them at the same time. This was really long, but I guess my point is that you're not alone. And while yes weight can play a role in fertility, if there are other issues happening, they should be addressed. While you're waiting to get in with the specialist, maybe try to find a program you're comfortable with? I know it's easier said than done. I found weight watchers made the most sense to me. Good luck hun :)

I actually hate this when OB's and RE's blame a girl's infertility on being overweight. I think unless you are SEVERELY obese then in does. I know more girls who are too thin and can't get pregnant than girls who are 'overweight.' If they are using the BMI to determine your weight, that measurement is in my opinion, total and complete crap. That scale only uses weight and does not consider bone density or muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. So a 200 pound body builder is considered obese with that scale. I believe being healthy (eating better and exercise) is far more important.

I have ALWAYS struggled with my weight and have NEVER been thin. I am 'overweight' but I am healthy. My in laws are OBSESSED with their weight and are thinner than me but guess what, I could out run them in a 5K race. The important thing is to be healthy and I believe losing weight can be good. Since I have struggled like you to lose weight here are some things that have helped me to lose weight and be healthier. Exercise and eating more protein. Rotate exercise between cardio and weight lifting every other day, cardio, upper body, cardio, lower body, cardio etc. this routine helps build muscle which burns fat and helps metabolism. I have found just 30 to 35 minutes a day does wonders. You don't need an entire hour, like most exercise programs tell you. Choose your calories with more protein. Protein stays with you sooooo much longer than carbs and helps build muscle. Have protein at EVERY meal, especially breakfast. If I eat eggs and toast for breakfast I don't snack and am not hungry. It helps!

Anyway, sorry for the rant. Also realize that hormones play a huge role in appetite. Birth control always made me gain weight and increased my appetite. Even with hormone changes eating more protein helped curb my appetite. Anyway, good luck friend!

Thanks for the tips and support everyone! My husband started working evenings so he's gone by the time I get home from work. I find the evenings so long and boring! That's my worst time because I'm constantly digging through the cupboards. I have a 2.5 year old who is miss independent so I can't take her for walks because she refuses to get in a stroller. I tried coming up with a hobby or project. I took apart my bathroom vanity to strip and stain it a new colour. Well that lasted 1hr because I have carpal tunnel in both hands and they killed me! What hobby could I do that doesn't require me using my hands?? I'm definitely an emotional eater and a boredom eater.
I live on Prince Edward Island but I'm from New Brunswick. I'd give anything to get back to NB to be with my family. But there's no full time work for my job there :( That doesn't help with the stress either..

Hi.. I have been struggling with my weight the whole 7+ years that I have been ttc, even now I am working my butt off trying to lose a few more lbs. before my next cycle UGH. But to tell you the truth... of the 6 doctors & specialist that I have seen through out my IF journey only one of them said she wouldn't treat me unless I was a certain weight, the rest of them have said that it didn't play that much of a factor. I believe that it is more important to be healthy.

For what it;s worth... these are the things that have help me with my weight loss: doing the Curves work out 3x a week, drinking a ton of water, cutting out all white food (bread, rice,sugar, etc.), eating good & low carbs only with lot of lean protein. and I know some feel that juicing is extreme but it changed my life and my eating habits for the good and helped kick start my weight loss big time, check out the film "Fat, sick & nearly dead" or www.rebootwithjoe.com At the very least I hope it makes you feel better that you're not alone in this struggle!

i DEFF have gained weight ALOT of it since starting all the IF Medications....i feel its totally impossible to lose weight while on the medicaiton. I literally gained like 30 or more pounds since starting IVF. I hate it.

Hi cmhardy,

You and I are in exactly the same boat! I could stand to lose about 20 lbs and my doc keeps saying even a little bit would make a difference and I just can't seem to do it! I keep going back to my comfort foods!

I'm stressed out too, and also have an independent 2 year old. We are so similar my husband leaves for work when I get home too. It makes for some long lonely nights. It' doesn't help to snack or cook because you're bored. I can't believe you tried doing a project that big. My daughter would NEVER let that happen! I've taken up gardening because she likes to play outside and sometimes even tries to help!

Let me know if you come up with a magic cure because you and I are two peas in a pod!
BRS

I hear ya CMhardy! In the last year I've put on close to 10 pounds. Each time I'd step on the scale and see an increase I'd think "no worries - it's only a pound. Easy to lose" Except I didn't and now, a year later, that one pound has turned in to 10.

Do I stop eating dessert or snacking on chocolate? noooo. Do I not reach for the bag of chips or an extra piece of cheese? nope.

I jokingly call it my "winter weight" I'm hopeful that with the beginning of the nice weather I'll step up my game and actually lose some of it!

I started using myfitnesspal.com. It's free and the app is great!

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It's so comforting knowing that I'm not the only one struggling with this! I kind of expected very few replies because I thought people would think "well you obviously don't want to be pregnant bad enough."
I just really think that people with infertility have added stress and also struggle because of the meds. The metformin was helping me to drop a few pounds when I first started it but not any more.

BRS - I started that project because it was something I'd been asking my husband to do for a while now. And we all know how men are when asked to do something lol. So I figured if I at least got it started then he could finish it. I literally used a screw driver and a palm sander. And I did it when my daughter was in bed. There's no way she'd let me do that kind of a project.

Has anyone ever tried any weight loss "all natural" supplements? I've tried Plexus and currently I have a few bottles of Skinny Fiber but I haven't finished them. I'm too paranoid about the possibility of being pregnant and taking something that's not safe. Supposedly it is safe, but you just never know.

I know I just need to eat better and get some exercise but it's just so hard to find the motivation!

Thanks everyone!

Lol metformin helped me lose weight at first too - only because I was crapping myself every other minute!!

Haha, I agree BRS. Luckily it only took a few days for my body to get used to it.

Lmao if you're going to spam at least post an active link you idiot. Reported to the DS police xoxo