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Hi girls,
I am at the moment battling with what is probably my worst bout of depression ever...
its a little long and coplicated so my apologies...
My sister was fraudulently getting a phone line installed at my parents house and I advised my parents not to let her as this could really land them in trouble Well all hell broke loose when my mom put her foot down and it culminated in my sister telling me that I was out to ruin her life because I cant have kids, so I am a frustrated individual and because she has been blessed with her kids I am out to get her she also told me I would never ever see my nephews again something she cant really do as she lives with my parents and she cant stop me from going there. Anyway this has really sent me into a spin I had been trying so hard during this break, I was starting to feel really positive and really attempting to see that IF is not a defining factor in my life, just part of it, but my sisters horrible words made me realise that not only am I vulnerable to such horrible attacks, but also the way other women see me, a dried up barren jealous woman. So far my sister has made some head way into getting on my moms good side, but when I walk in the house she just walks past me and shuts her self up in her room. She hasnt once even tried to apologise or even shown some remorse at the horrid stuff she said to me. To make things worse my DH and I had a chat about adoption/fostering and he has very clearly told me that he is not under any circumstances willing to adopt or foster a child and yesterday when I suggested that we go back and see the natural fertility specialist, he just looked at me and said, I thought you were on a break, and when I told him it has been two months now he replied, well wouldnt it be better to wait till you go back to work as it will cost us $500.00 per month (the thing is he was willing to spend almost as much getting a stupid play station 3 the day before, but they had run out at the shop and couldnt get it) which basically tells me that he is completely disinterested in having a baby.
So I am now sitting in front of my computer after crying for what seemed hours last night to the point that when I was finished I was just nub, completely numb and today I feel like I could just crawl into a hole and die. I just don't know what to do anymore
I am at the moment battling with what is probably my worst bout of depression ever...
its a little long and coplicated so my apologies...
My sister was fraudulently getting a phone line installed at my parents house and I advised my parents not to let her as this could really land them in trouble Well all hell broke loose when my mom put her foot down and it culminated in my sister telling me that I was out to ruin her life because I cant have kids, so I am a frustrated individual and because she has been blessed with her kids I am out to get her she also told me I would never ever see my nephews again something she cant really do as she lives with my parents and she cant stop me from going there. Anyway this has really sent me into a spin I had been trying so hard during this break, I was starting to feel really positive and really attempting to see that IF is not a defining factor in my life, just part of it, but my sisters horrible words made me realise that not only am I vulnerable to such horrible attacks, but also the way other women see me, a dried up barren jealous woman. So far my sister has made some head way into getting on my moms good side, but when I walk in the house she just walks past me and shuts her self up in her room. She hasnt once even tried to apologise or even shown some remorse at the horrid stuff she said to me. To make things worse my DH and I had a chat about adoption/fostering and he has very clearly told me that he is not under any circumstances willing to adopt or foster a child and yesterday when I suggested that we go back and see the natural fertility specialist, he just looked at me and said, I thought you were on a break, and when I told him it has been two months now he replied, well wouldnt it be better to wait till you go back to work as it will cost us $500.00 per month (the thing is he was willing to spend almost as much getting a stupid play station 3 the day before, but they had run out at the shop and couldnt get it) which basically tells me that he is completely disinterested in having a baby.
So I am now sitting in front of my computer after crying for what seemed hours last night to the point that when I was finished I was just nub, completely numb and today I feel like I could just crawl into a hole and die. I just don't know what to do anymore
Good luck.
Your sister; Sisters, women, people, who have not experienced this journey just don't understand! There are no excuses for the hurtful words she said. She lashed out at you in anger targeting a very sensitive issue in you life. Search your heart, maybe try writing her a letter explaining your position and how this hurt you. I pray peace will guide you through the days to come. Hugs!
Big hugs to you.
I too have had similar husband problems. When we first started he wasn't so much into the adoption plans. It takes time. It is a process to mourn for your unborn child. With talks here and there about adoption my husband has come to embrace the idea and we are actively pursuing it.
Thank goodness the store ran out of Play Stations!!! I hate video game systems. My husband's Xbox broke the other day...and it has been gone for almost 2 weeks...it has been heaven! He spends much more time with me and talks to me. And I get to enjoy my living room.
Hope you are feeling better....