This is from some of the information I got when we were trying to adopt. It's called, "Grief is Part of Infertility" Compiled by Leslie Carpenter. I wanted to share it here because it helped me when I was childless:

"'Death. Death of a lot of things. The end of the Jones family and the Jones' family name. It dies with us, because of me. My husband is the last of the male children in his family. Death before life...before we even know our child, because he never existed. The hardest part of this kind of death is the fact that it is the death of a dream. There are no solid memories, no pictures, no things to remember. You can't remember your child's blonde hair or brown eyes or his favorite toys or the way he laughed or the way it felt to be pregnant with him. He never existed.' There is no funeral, no burial, no grave to lay flowers on." And sometimes the couple grieves alone.

I know this is depressing, but it helped me to work through the feelings of grief I experienced. Most of us here are going through grief, and I think it is good to know that we have permission! The course of grief usually follows: first shock/disbelief, then suffering, and finally recovery. I hope that no matter what happens, we can help each other find the way to recovery. I love you guys! (I know that probably none of you are really guys, but it sounds old-fashioned to say "gals")