Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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lina2008 05/31/2010

Hi all,

I am looking at doing my first FET at the end of the month.

I am so scared, my first IVF resulted in pregnancy only to loose the baby. and now I can't stop thinking that I may not have any embies survive the thawing process (I only have two) or I may not get pregnant or worse I may loose the baby again...

also I am unsure if it is better to put back the embie which was hatching or the one that wasn't... I know that ultimately its the geneticists decision but I feel so worried about it all!

what do you ladies think? what would be best?

I feel teriefied

deleted_user 05/31/2010

Lina, I'm so sorry that you have so much to deal with. I can't really offer advise, but I hope and pray that you will have peace with your decision(s), and that things go very well this time around...and that your little miracle(s) will grow up healthy and strong.

deleted_user 05/31/2010

Try not to stress, I know it is hard. But stress will not be helpful if your embies survive the thaw. I just got my BFP today, and am anxious as well (get my new betas to check for doubling Wednesday). So I know how you feel (I had a miscarriage about 3 months ago). However, I am having to tell myself to stay calm.

My husband just told me that I am remarkably calm. What he does not know is that when I get a little time to myself (he is very attentive) then I do loose it a little. But I feel obligated to put on the happy face for everyone else. What everyone else does not see are my fears. So just keep coming here for support. We are here for you because we understand better than anyone.

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