Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Doctors office called today, I can start the bcp for 2 weeks in anticipation of staring IVF. Had an early miscarriage 2 weeks ago after and IUI and am still bleeding slightly, my beta level is 70 and declining. (I had gotten AF on schedule and there was little hope it would be viable, this is the 3rd time its happened.)
While I should be excited to try again I am just feeling defeated.
What happens if I do the IVF and I don't get a bfp or have another miscarriage? My in-laws are giving us half the $ for the IVF and I just don't want to disappoint my DH or them.
At this point I'm not sure if I'm not into it mentally it will work. Also feel like I have PMS even though I know that isn't possible so not sure if that is causing some of the emotions.
Any advice to help me stay on the roller coaster of IVF?
While I should be excited to try again I am just feeling defeated.
What happens if I do the IVF and I don't get a bfp or have another miscarriage? My in-laws are giving us half the $ for the IVF and I just don't want to disappoint my DH or them.
At this point I'm not sure if I'm not into it mentally it will work. Also feel like I have PMS even though I know that isn't possible so not sure if that is causing some of the emotions.
Any advice to help me stay on the roller coaster of IVF?
I think you need to first remove this pressure that you are putting on yourself! Gosh, when I read your posting, I just wanted to hug you! DO NOT worry about disappointing your husband or in-laws. It's not your fault and you did not create these circumstances! Accept the money as a gift- and a generous gift at that! They obviously love you and want to help you to become a mother. What a blessing to have such a supportive family...
It's difficult to mentally go at it all again- especially since you have just had a miscarriage, which sadly has happened to you before. Give yourself a little time and work through those emotions. An addition to that, your hormones are not normal and they do make a difference in how you see things. With all that being said, my first IVF was a BFN and a failure, I wondered how I would ever get better. I felt incredibly sad and didn't know how I was going to move forward. But, in my case, when I started the medications for my next IVF, my mentality completely changed and I started to feel hopeful, and even excited. But, those positive feelings didn't occur until I was in my next cycle. I feel strongly that you will get excited again- you absolutely will- when you start focusing on your next cycle. Take the time to grieve your loss, feel sad and work through your thoughts. YOU WILL pick yourself up again and keep trying. Keep in mind- you are one step closer to your goal! Sounds so far away now, but you never know! I always told myself that I never knew where I would be a year from now and it is completely true. You are a strong woman that is going to be one heck of a mother- look how hard you are working for your family now! Best of luck to you- you will get there!!! HUGS and PRAYERS to you!!!
I just feel like you can only be so strong for so long before mentally you feel like you need to shut down for a while. Im at that point.
I am hoping you have brighter days to come. We will get through this roller coaster of emotions one way or another:).
I hope this site and all the wonderful young ladies bring you some comfort in the days to come.