Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
Don't tell me that it'll happen if I just relax.
Don't tell me the story of your neighbor's cousin's best friend's coworker who was infertile for a million years and suddenly got pregnant naturally as soon as she had given up all hope.
Don't tell me "well, at least you have your nieces and nephews!" as if that's the same thing as having my own children.
Don't flick your eyes down to my belly every two seconds while we're having a conversation, trying to gauge whether or not it's getting bigger.
Don't tell me what you would do if you were in my shoes. You have no fucking idea what my shoes feel like, and I wouldn't wish them on anyone.
Don't nod your head when I tell you that I have endometriosis and say, "yeah, I get bad cramps too". I don't have bad cramps. I have severe pelvic inflammation and internal bleeding. It's not the same thing; it's not even CLOSE to the same thing.
Don't offer to be my egg donor. First of all, you think you mean it but you actually don't. Second of all, don't be so vain as to assume I even want your nasty eggs. And third of all, don't assume that I need a donor egg.
Don't offer to be my surrogate either. Who says I need a surrogate? Since when are you a doctor? And who says I want my baby inside of your judgmental body?
Don't look at me with sad puppy dog eyes every time you see me holding someone else's baby.
Just don't.
Don't tell me the story of your neighbor's cousin's best friend's coworker who was infertile for a million years and suddenly got pregnant naturally as soon as she had given up all hope.
Don't tell me "well, at least you have your nieces and nephews!" as if that's the same thing as having my own children.
Don't flick your eyes down to my belly every two seconds while we're having a conversation, trying to gauge whether or not it's getting bigger.
Don't tell me what you would do if you were in my shoes. You have no fucking idea what my shoes feel like, and I wouldn't wish them on anyone.
Don't nod your head when I tell you that I have endometriosis and say, "yeah, I get bad cramps too". I don't have bad cramps. I have severe pelvic inflammation and internal bleeding. It's not the same thing; it's not even CLOSE to the same thing.
Don't offer to be my egg donor. First of all, you think you mean it but you actually don't. Second of all, don't be so vain as to assume I even want your nasty eggs. And third of all, don't assume that I need a donor egg.
Don't offer to be my surrogate either. Who says I need a surrogate? Since when are you a doctor? And who says I want my baby inside of your judgmental body?
Don't look at me with sad puppy dog eyes every time you see me holding someone else's baby.
Just don't.
Don't tell me to just do yoga and stop stressing.
Don't tell me "it will happen", because unless I missed a memo, you're not God and you can't see into the future!
Don't pretend like you care, because clearly you don't!
Don't tell me about your friends friend who struggled longer or more than me. I realize I'm not a worst case scenario but this still sucks and if F******* hurts!
Don't tell me you know someone who has been through same thing, chances are probably not!
Don't tell me vacation will solve this, "relaxing" doesn't help sperm counts!
And fucking don't tell me (my RE this week actually) to just keep trying because you never know, oh right that's why we are doing IVF because it could happen naturally???
Thanks lady, this felt good!!
Don't tell me that IVF is the answer. I've done it twice and it didn't work.
Don't tell me to just adopt, because it's such an easy decision.
Don't tell me to just enjoy this time with no kids. I've been "enjoying" it for five years, and I'm over it.
Don't tell me how sorry you are and then proceed to talk nothing about your pregnancy or children for the next two hours.
Don't ask me if I want to help with our friend's baby shower. I don't, but I don't know how to say no.
Don't complain to me about how breastfeeding sucks. I won't ever have that luxury. You have a right to complain, but please do it to someone else.
Don't tell me that you know what it's like to struggle too because it took you four months to get pregnant and you thought you were going to lose your mind.
Don't tell me babysitting someone else's kids gives the same experience.
Don't tell me there's a reason for everything, or that "God has a plan" Are you saying God thinks i'm unworthy of having a kid but crack whores passed the qualifications??
Don't ask me to babysit every week because you and your wife need alone time.
Don't tell me that maybe the Dr timed things wrong, because I am pretty sure he as more experience at this than you do!
Don't tell me all I have to do is use the little test strips that tell me when I am ovulating, because if I had bought stock in those 3 years ago I would be rich with all the little sticks I have peed on since then!
Well said ladies!
don't tell me about the woman you know had a baby in her late 40s with out trying so its still hope for me
don't tell me you can still be motherly without being a mother ITS NOT THE SAME!!!
don't tell me to appreciate life now when all I can think about is the life I cant create, carry, and give birth too!
I just want to say that while I've dealt with IF but been blessed with two boys, that desire and frustration doesn't change from one attempt to the next. I pray you ladies find peace and joy one way or another.
Dont tell me I'm lucky I can have IVF....yeah frikkin barrel of laughs that is!
Dont tell me a few needles is nothing compared to childbirth....I still have to do that if I ever get that far!
Dont tell your child in front of me that if he's good he can stay at my house tonight, I might not feel up to looking after a child that will never be mine and now I have to tell him that too!
Dont tell me how sad you are your brothers having a second baby because your so broody since your 2nd child....... you have no idea!!
Dont tell me in an effort to relate to me that you know how I feel because your husband doesnt want you to have a third baby!!
Ohhhhhh, I could just keep going and going!!
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Don't talk to me about a bunch of celebrity cum drinking hoes having a baby.
Don't talk to me about the royal fucking baby.
Don't assume because I'm not crying everyday about my IF that I'm fine.
(I can so relate to all of these!! Thanks!!)
Don't tell me that I am better off not having kids because they are a pain in the ass...or that they are alot of work.. last I checked I was a responsible adult and can handle it.
Don't tell me you are upset because you didn't get pregnant on the first try again while trying to have your second baby ( words of my best friend that knows all I am going through)
Don't text me the exact minute every time one of our friends annouces they are pregnant on FB...I don't need it shoved in my face and I can go on Facebook and read everyone's posts for myself.
Don't tell me that I need to do IVF because I owe it to my husband to have a baby (words of my nasty old MIL). As if it was that simple sorry I don't have $10K to just flush down the toliet and would like to try other options first.
I can go on forever ... I love how people without IF try to sugar coat everything and say things that they think will make you feel better when really they just make it worse!