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Don’t they understand.

mari_mad
mari_mad

So I told my friend a while ago about my fertility problems and now all she talks about is how she doesn’t think she wants kids and shed be a bad mom. etc. and I’m just here like dying inside wanting to say hi do you just not understand that I may not even have a choice. And I feel really bad thinking like this cause I know her thoughts upset her but like I might not even get to choose. And I just feel so broken all the damn time and like I think about how I may have wanted kids and everything but I may not get to and here she is just constantly talking about how she doesn’t even really want kids. 

KingWithoutACrown
KingWithoutACrown
I am a firm believer that it doesn't matter how good of a friend you have, they will NEVER truly understand how you feel & what you're going through. Even my church doesn't understand. I broke down and went to a support group just to see if it was worth it & it really is. It's EXTREMELY relieving to be able to talk to other people that are going through the same things as you & even some things you aren't. It can always be worse & a support group really sheds light on a lot of information too. If you go to resolve.org you can find one near you. If you have trouble finding one, speak to a Reproductive Endocrinologist/Fertility Clinic. Many of them have internal supportive resources as well. In the meantime, I am here for you. In understand your pain.
I'm going to say what no one else will say: It's okay to be bitter, angry, and sad. It's okay to be jealous or to secretly loath those around you that get to fulfill their dreams of being a parent. Most importantly, you are not alone.

I learned that by keeping my infertility a secret from people, I was indirectly isolating myself. It made coping so much harder. Try to start building a support network around yourself. Reach out to everyone you know. Keep talking to people until you find others facing the same fate. You'd be surprised how many people don't talk about their infertility. I don't know why people do that. It's a lot more common than society acknowledges.

Regardless, let me know if you need some more resources, I'd be happy to help you find some sanity in all this.