Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
A really good friend (or I thought she was) just called me and said 'did you hear that Jennifer Hudson has given forgivness to the man that killed her family". Before I could answer she tells me " Why can't you just do that and move on, it's getting old."
First off I am happy that Jennifer can do this. But this tradegy only happened to her as an adult and has not had to live in shame for years. She has no reason to feel guilt and keep things a secret. But good for her. I tried to tell her this but she just talked above me. I am not ready to forgive my grandfather. I have not even told my therapist the whole story yet.
Who does she think she is telling me this. I am well aware that the abuse has taken over my life and that now i also suffer from seizures(which this set off) now. I am sorry if my life has been an incovience to you. I was a child and was not able to do anything about it. Doesn't she realize that I hate living this way, I would love to be free. To be able to get back to work and be apart of the community would be amazing. But I am not ready yet.
sorry rambling and i know spelling is bad always is.
First off I am happy that Jennifer can do this. But this tradegy only happened to her as an adult and has not had to live in shame for years. She has no reason to feel guilt and keep things a secret. But good for her. I tried to tell her this but she just talked above me. I am not ready to forgive my grandfather. I have not even told my therapist the whole story yet.
Who does she think she is telling me this. I am well aware that the abuse has taken over my life and that now i also suffer from seizures(which this set off) now. I am sorry if my life has been an incovience to you. I was a child and was not able to do anything about it. Doesn't she realize that I hate living this way, I would love to be free. To be able to get back to work and be apart of the community would be amazing. But I am not ready yet.
sorry rambling and i know spelling is bad always is.
I have one friend who asks me how I am and is interested in my replies, and I only see her about once a year and talk once or twice on the phone. Many others know my history but they are not interested (after any initial gruesome fascination) and so I don't bother with the subject and gloss over reasons for illnesses or problems.
There really is no point in talking about it to people who don't want to hear. Makes me really sad tho', and lonely. But not as lonely as I would be if I couldn't talk to them about anything.
Because if a "friend" said something like that to me they would no longer be my friend.
The cognitive dissonance from hearing something like that from someone close to me would mulch my thinking for days-and has...and I would cut them off for safety reasons.
I have done so before.
One of the people whom I cut off recently I had been friends with for 15 years...he just didn't understand how bad I was doing, and took me avoiding him personally, thought it was lack of respect. No, I was just being devastated, and had nothing to give.
...I feel so alone. I hurt.
Because if a "friend" said something like that to me they would no longer be my friend.
The cognitive dissonance from hearing something like that from someone close to me would mulch my thinking for days-and has...and I would cut them off for safety reasons.
I have done so before.
One of the people whom I cut off recently I had been friends with for 15 years...he just didn't understand how bad I was doing, and took me avoiding him personally, thought it was lack of respect. No, I was just being devastated, and had nothing to give.
...I feel so alone. I hurt.
Because if a "friend" said something like that to me they would no longer be my friend.
The cognitive dissonance from hearing something like that from someone close to me would mulch my thinking for days-and has...and I would cut them off for safety reasons.
I have done so before.
One of the people whom I cut off recently I had been friends with for 15 years...he just didn't understand how bad I was doing, and took me avoiding him personally, thought it was lack of respect. No, I was just being devastated, and had nothing to give.
...I feel so alone. I hurt.
Because if a "friend" said something like that to me they would no longer be my friend.
The cognitive dissonance from hearing something like that from someone close to me would mulch my thinking for days-and has...and I would cut them off for safety reasons.
I have done so before.
One of the people whom I cut off recently I had been friends with for 15 years...he just didn't understand how bad I was doing, and took me avoiding him personally, thought it was lack of respect. No, I was just being devastated, and had nothing to give.
...I feel so alone. I hurt.