Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I don't think I do it completely on purpose but it feels like I can't stop setting myself up for failure. I feel like most of my mistakes are small but just snowball into big things. Its like my subconscious is trying to reinforce thoughts that I'm worthless, useless, and can't do anything right. Anyone else do this? Or feel this way? How do you pull yourself back from making these mistakes?
One of the things you can do, and I am learning to do, is allow yourself to make mistakes rather than beating yourself up for them. Everyone makes mistakes - it's normal. It's OK to make mistakes. Really.
I have nothing helpful to say here, but I am extremely successful at failure myself - I should get a bloody medal.
Perhaps we suffer from internal saboteurs. I always blame twelve, my angry teenager self. She just can't resist kicking down all my sandcastles.
I recognise the punishment cycle you all mention.
"what is not brought into consciousness becomes fate.."
I have gone past the self-destructive behaviour and i'm in a sort of middle of the road state.....I'm trying to convince myself i deserve a good life.Not easy to do.But i no longer self-destruct either...
And i think that is the only worth while role of a therapist to help us bring into consciousness what we are unaware of so we can change it..........any other role is rubish.. (in my opinion)
Absolutely. Brilliant summing up of a therapists only role. Of course how they do it matters quite a lot...