I got this from a friend, about 40 years or so ago and I found it while going through some of my things.  I think that this letter should be given to ALL perps or people toying with the idea of perpetration. I don't know if any man or woman has a clue as to what it is going to do to their child.

Dear Father, Stepfather, Brother, Grandfather, Neightor, Uncle, Whoever you are,

You who see that innocent child playing in the yard or lying peacefully in their bed.  You who are tempted to  snavely enter their private domain and take a little sexual joy for yourself.  My heart cries out to you, from its deepest depths.

Before you touch, please, please, please, oh please, consider what damage you are inflicting upon them. "Just one time", you say, "They won't be aware", "They is sleeping",  "They are too young ti even know it is wrong."  "I won't go all the way."  Yes, you have your excuses, your reasons, your alibies.  But deep down inside, you know its your own self centered pleasure and the need to feel your power that lies at the heart of this desire.  Oh, selfish man.  Will you not realize that the power of love and self control is by far the mightier sword to yield?  It leaves no scars of guilt or shame, or remorse.  No scars on you and no scars on them.  Scars are forever, my friend. The wounds heal, but the scars never ever completely disappear.  Do you really want to wound them?  Do you really want them to bear the permanent scars of your selfish pleasure?  What have they done, I ask you? What have they done to deserve such a destiny? " You talk of wounds and cars and destiny", I hear  you say.  "I'm talking only of a touch, only a caress, only a feel."  "I do not mean to damage them"

And, that is why I am writing to you.  You do not know the depth of agony, that touch, that caress, that one good feel will cause that child to bear.  The agony of the moment may for them, be brief and confused but don't you know that down the road, some day, yes down the road, some day, they will have to deal with this memory.  This memory of violation and abuse.

As a child, the fact that they have been betrayed by the one in whom they fearlessly put their love and trust, will be too overwhelming for them to handle.  The reaction you see will be small, or even one of positive receptivity, as they drink in the feeling of pseudo-affection for which they have perhaps been starved.  But, sooner or later they will know that those were hands that moved, not in love for them, not in warm affection, but only for themselves.  They took, they did NOT give.  They took that which was most precious to them.  That which was theirs alone.  And then the pain, the scaring, tearing piercing pain, will wrench the very depths of their being.  The pain of betrayal. The pain of humiliation and shame.  The pain of being used instead of loved.  Exploited instead of protected.  And that pain won't last for just a day or a week.  It will go on for months and months and perhaps even years or a lifetime, as they resurrect their emotions about the situation.  These long buried emotions which were never expressed as a child.  They will all need to come out so they can be healed and set free from their bondage.  It will take much strength and courage on their part, to walk that long fiery road to healing, but if they doesn't they will continue to be plagued by deep inner hostiolity, depression, psycosymatic illnesses and malfunctions in many areas of their life.  They cannot be their own true selfs until they free themselves from this terrible emotional bondage.  And what will have preceded this painful awakening to the truths?  What effects will this experience have had on their life?  Besides the perhaps years of unexplained anger and depression, it will  have undoubtedly affected htheir ability to relate to men or women in a healthy way.  They will have been caught between the extremes of fear and frigidity, on the one hand and promiscuity on the other.  Knowing how to relate to men and women only through sex, forever craving the true love and affection they never got from their father. They will have had difficulty in forming deep trusting relationships.  If they have children, they will be hindered in developing the normal intimacy of a parent/child relationship because they were betrayed in that area.  The joy of parenthood will have been much decreased for them.  They will also have been greatly pre-disposed to alcoholism, drug abuse and prostitution, unconsciously trying to bury their pain.  These my friend, are just a few of the damages they will have suffered from your selfish act.  Do you really want them to be marred in this way?  Please, I ask you again, please consider thes facts before you touch.

Painfully written by one, so touched......

I am sorry if this offends anybody.  I just so wish that there was a way to get this to every person out there, so that they understand.