Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I feel overpowered by my dad and brother. My dad keeps trying to find a way into my life emotionally so he can abuse me sexually again. My brother abused me as well. I feel like they both think about me sexually when I'm in their presence. I FEEL SO UNCOMFORTABLE! with this. I really don't know what to do. All I know is that I'm not going there for my brother's birthday on the 19th. I just need my space. ANd then my dad will always try and get me alone, like go out to breakfast or something and that is just WEIRD! My mom is psychologically, mentally and emotionally abusive to me so I end up petting the dog or spending time with the dog a lot.
Just pray they won't want me to come there next week. It's two hours away and I can always say that I have to work the next day. Phew! Just thought of my out. I work part time and pick up hours at various times.
I feel powerless to stop my family's abuse against me. I'm trying to lose weight but I've hit a plateau mentally where I just don't want to lose anymore and I think it's because they are starting to look at me again. Any suggestions to help me? Suzi
Just pray they won't want me to come there next week. It's two hours away and I can always say that I have to work the next day. Phew! Just thought of my out. I work part time and pick up hours at various times.
I feel powerless to stop my family's abuse against me. I'm trying to lose weight but I've hit a plateau mentally where I just don't want to lose anymore and I think it's because they are starting to look at me again. Any suggestions to help me? Suzi
Don't feel guilty for saying no. I agree with previous comment - you have to learn to say no.
I assume you're an adult now so you don't even need excuses. The answer is no, plain and simple, and there's no need for you to explain it away. I know that's a terrifying thought but it's freedom...freedom from the ties that have you bound.
I hope you're able, one day, to do this and know you're doing the right thing for YOU and that's okay!
It took me years to finally decide that I was having nothing-zero contact with my abuser-no matter what. It is really hard and it creates a lot of family issues at first, but it has been years for me and I am so glad that I never have to be in the same room with him again-and I never will.
Personally i think is detrimental to the abused.
Keep away! say 'no'. The more you keep away from them the more your strength will grow.
If you feel you need an excuse or that an excuse will help you when you tell them, then use an excuse, but you are an independent adult to whom they behave appallingly and you don't owe them any explanation.