Take your time. It is hard - very very hard so just do what you can. If you feel safe push yourself a bit - but not too much. It's OK to take it slowly.
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Heidique,
I think everyone finds it hard and maybe because we coped by putting it out of our minds at the time and hoped it would stop or there would be someone to save us. To dwell on it was to accept that was our life and that was too distressing.

I know I did not have effective therapy to deal with revealing what happened. Could you ask the therapist what has been found to be the least painful way? I find saying he used his hand to touch my breast somehow helps. Others say describing what he did to her/the girl (third person) helps. I don't think therapists who aren't victims themselves really get the humiliation we feel in having to describe our abuse. I know I could type it out, have the therapist read it silently and answer questions much easier than talk about it. Good Luck.

I have been in therapy for 6 years. I am only just being able to talk about what happened to me in the past month or so, and talk more freely about all of my experiences.

You can't force it, you just have to take it at a pace you can handle. I know it's frustrating, believe me. I have been frustrated for years. But it comes as you are able to trust your counsellor more and more and find more of yourself and your voice. So just try to be patient with yourself.

I've been in counselling off and on since around 15yrs. old and it's only been the last 7 years in which I finally talked about it. I did pumpkins idea, I wrote it out and then read it outloud while alone and that helped me to start to talk about it. I understand that humiliation feeling, yet try to remember that truly belongs to the abuser and not you. The only thing you were was innocent. Just keep going, and like everyone else said, it just takes time, My Best to You on Your Journey, Blaine

I should have added that it took me 3 years of twice a week therapy before I could talk about the abuse in even the most vague terms. 7 years later and it still isn't easy, I still want to avoid it if I can, but I can do it when I have to.

I am just starting counselling. my counselor said i dont have to talk about anything difficult until i trust her. Do you trust your coulnsellor?

Thanks for your comments everyone. Yeah I do trust my counsellor totally and have told her loads and never once been judged but still every memory etc is so hard to talk about.