So last night I talked to my mom on the phone about many of the things we have been conflicted about for years. Of course in the midst of the conversation we talked about my brother abusing, molesting and raping my sister and I. My sister and I both have so many things we suffer from because of the abuse and my mom just minimizes everything! I brought up everything-insomnia, painful intercourse, hormonal abnormalities, increased risk for tearing in childbirth-which happened!, chronic constipation, frequent nightmares, anorexia, migraines, back pain, not to mention emotional problems. She had the gall to say "well we had you examined and your hymen was still intact so you were fine ( they did a pelvic exam on a 6 year old?!?! I have memories of this too...), it's probably all in your head and you just need counseling" I know that when you suffer abuse at a young age your entire body re-wires to cope. I tried to explain this to her and she just said it was all in my head. I just don't understand how she can defend her son, my dad or herself. It's so stupid! How should I handle this? She had the nerve to cut the convo off and say that she didn't want to talk to me anymore because I was "making them into monsters" and she "couldn't understand what I did to deserve this". I am so tired of all the crap. She is so manipulative and tries to control me with fear. She's even tried to tell me that if I don't have sex with my husband a certain number of times a week that he will leave me and we will get divorced. She even said shed be a "bad mom" to not say those things to me! Well too bad! I've got an awesome husband who loves me and cares about more than sex. We are madly in love and he understands me so much. It's too bad she has to live in that world...how do you all handle family members like this?
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