Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I cant believe i am writing this!!! ...i actually did it!!! i confronted my father about the SA. I am still a little shocked i did it. How brave of me! :-) I am a strong person! :-) Wow, i feel so much better not carrying around his secret. I also told my sister and mother. I am VERY fortunate that my family is being so supportive. They both believe me. Well my mom is divorced from him and was hurt by him too, so its easier for her to support me. My sister is still in contact with him, so its alot harder for her. So...
When i was home for Christmas, I confronted my father about what he did to me. God, that feels so good to say. I told him that i remembered, i remembered what he did to me. He tried to act like he didnt know what i was talking about and walked away! but when i told him my attorney would be in contact with him, he came back and started being very nice all of a sudden. I told him how much it hurt me and how it has affected me my entire life. I told him that he thought he got away with it for the past 35 years, but he is not going to get away with it anymore. I told him i was considering all my options including legal/criminal/civil charges or that i might be kind and come to some sort of settlment with him. I told him i didnt want to see a 65 year old man go to jail, but I have been in prisoned for the past 35 years, and people need to stop getting away with this shit! To which he replied: "So tell me what i can do for you?"
LOL {shaking my head in disgust}. My father doesnt have an ounce of compassion in him, he doesnt care about what sort of problems i might be having, or how his physical/emotional/pscyhological/sexual abuse has effected me, or why i havent called to talk to him for the past year. When he says, "tell me what i can do for you" he is simply saying how much money do you want? I told him i didnt want his money, but that he WAS going to pay some sort of consequence for what he did to me. His response was, "I'm sorry" (huh) I told him sorry doesnt cut it!
I am open to any and all thoughts and feedback on this. I am not sure where to take it fom here, but i feel GREAT about what i did!!!
When i was home for Christmas, I confronted my father about what he did to me. God, that feels so good to say. I told him that i remembered, i remembered what he did to me. He tried to act like he didnt know what i was talking about and walked away! but when i told him my attorney would be in contact with him, he came back and started being very nice all of a sudden. I told him how much it hurt me and how it has affected me my entire life. I told him that he thought he got away with it for the past 35 years, but he is not going to get away with it anymore. I told him i was considering all my options including legal/criminal/civil charges or that i might be kind and come to some sort of settlment with him. I told him i didnt want to see a 65 year old man go to jail, but I have been in prisoned for the past 35 years, and people need to stop getting away with this shit! To which he replied: "So tell me what i can do for you?"
LOL {shaking my head in disgust}. My father doesnt have an ounce of compassion in him, he doesnt care about what sort of problems i might be having, or how his physical/emotional/pscyhological/sexual abuse has effected me, or why i havent called to talk to him for the past year. When he says, "tell me what i can do for you" he is simply saying how much money do you want? I told him i didnt want his money, but that he WAS going to pay some sort of consequence for what he did to me. His response was, "I'm sorry" (huh) I told him sorry doesnt cut it!
I am open to any and all thoughts and feedback on this. I am not sure where to take it fom here, but i feel GREAT about what i did!!!
i m glad you confronted him, your soo lucky to have fmily that supports you, im glad you feel great. i hope all works out for you :]
Thank you so much for sharing this! This is really good work. And you came from such a place of strength and inner power. It is awesome that you were able to fall for his "what can I do for you". So many survivors would really want to hear that and fall for the false sense of concern - desperately wanting that kind of response.
I am so impressed with you! You stood your ground and didn't fall for his B.S. It really speaks to your strength. Again...CONGRATULATIONS!!! You are amazing!
*hugs*
This is very inspirational and I hope others read your story. You are right, that noone should get away with it. Blessings for your continued recovery. You have accomplished so much. Hugs
God Bless You!