Incest Survivors Support Group

Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...

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chris1976 02/13/2012

Hello. I realized that I posted a reply before introducing myself.

I am a survivor of incest, sexual abuse and rape. Those things happened before I was 9. The only family member that sexually abused me was my father.

I am now in my 40s and though I have dealt with this before, I don't know for sure if there's really a way to live without the effects of so much trauma.

I didn't have an easy childhood and today I'd really love to like, move on already (I'm in my 40's for christ sake).

Anyway, looking forward to getting better.

deleted_user 02/13/2012

Welcome and as sad as it is that you even have to be here I do know that many people her are wonderful and so supportive. It helps getting through this journey a bit more bearable.

For me moving on is something I do with each waking day. I take stock in all that I have accomplished and gained despite the hellish nightmare of my life.

With all my babbling I will just say again Welcome and wish you nothing but the best as you continue the journey towards real peace. Take care!

deleted_user 02/13/2012

Hi and Welcome

I too am in my (late) 40's and I used to think I'd be able to 'cure' myself of the effects of my trauma, but I am slowly coming to realise that they have shaped me. I am a sum of myself and everything that has happened to me in my life - good and bad. I don't know who I would have been if the abuse hadn't happened - that person doesn't exist.

With the help of therapy I am shedding the bad habits and coping mechanisms that are no longer relevant - this is a good thing.

I hope you find your way to a better way of living.

deleted_user 02/13/2012

welcome. and you will find many kindred spirits here

deleted_user 02/13/2012

Welcome to DS. I have found there a have been times just being here have talked me off a ledge. I hope you find some relief knowing you are safe and among friends who know what you are going through.

I have just really started my journey as well and am going to a therapist (3rd session today) and on lexapro. I also go to alanon.

loum50 02/13/2012

Welcome, I am another male. My father also abused me. That is what shaped me and it always comes back to that. I have much to work on. Grief from loosing my wife, chronic illnesses, amputations and what I have done to cope and survive are what I am dealing with. I also see a therapist and go to Al-Anon, but DS is my every day support. My friends here are wonderful and the most important part of my support.

chris1976 02/13/2012

Thank you. brings tears to my eyes to have so much support. I guess they are the right kind of tears. I really appreciate the support an understanding.

theblackrose 02/13/2012

Welcome chris :) I hope you find what your looking for in means of recovery. I know this site has helped me so much.

deleted_user 02/14/2012

Welcome! Glad that you are here, this place has helped me a lot! When I feel like breaking down I just come here write in the journal, and feel better! People here rock too, they know what you are going through, and its bitter sweet. Only bitter because they had it happen to them as well. Its good to see so many good people here, and its good to know that what happend to us wont turn us into bad people! We have eachother.

deleted_user 02/14/2012

Welcome! I am sorry for what you have been through and I hope you find much strength and support here.

deleted_user 02/14/2012

hi chris and welcome, good bunch of ppl here mate, hope we can be of help...

manda xxx

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