Hi everyone, I need some advice on erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation. I have been married for two years to a man who is experiencing both of these issues. We started dating five years ago and of course I realized something was very off. It took him a long time to admit that something was wrong (this after blaming myself for a long time). He's the only man I've ever been with and I love him dearly, but this has been the most frustrating thing we've both ever experienced, especially since we've been trying to start a family for the past three years. My obgyn told me that he would need to do a semen analysis test before any tests could be done on me. That's understandable because I don't want to take meds if I'm not the one with the problem. The thing is my husband has had the past two years to get this done and he just can't seem to do it. To make matters worse, early on in dating I asked him how he felt about adoption if he were to ever experience infertility. He said it would be an option for him, well now it's not and he doens't want to adopt. I understand people change their minds over time, but that's kind of a big life event that he should have thought about before marrying me. I feel lied to.

I'm now in a sexless marriage and feel so unwanted. My husband says he loves me, but doesn't take the steps needed to correct his issues. Every once in a while he will take Cialis and he will last a long time but doesn't orgasm. When he doesn't take the Cialis he can't get an erection or goes limp very quickly. So, my question is are there any guys on this board that have experienced both of these issues and if so how did you deal with it?