THIS IS GONNA BE LONG BUT PLEASE TRY TO GET AT LEAST THE BULLIT POINTS AND GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.
So as it says in my subject line, hubby whom I have known for 10 years is never horny anymore. I am generally a very logical person.... really, yes I am female but I am logical over emotions MOST of the time. But I can't do it here and I need advice or reassurance.
Why is he not horney?? Lets add up the POSSIBLE reasons:
*1*- He was addicted to Oxycontin for a few years, went to rehab and has been clean since November of '08. >>>>
{Maybe he subconsciously feels guilt over the HELL he put our son and me through. I will add that I am supportive and NEVER EVER throw this in his face, though I am sure he knows the trust factor will probably not ever be 100%.}
*2*- He's a bodybuilder who used to compete, yes he did use steroids, albeit "safely", I mean he really did his homework on the matter.>>>>
{He's used to higher T levels}
*3*- I used to be 130 pounds, I am now about 145 pounds, which keep in mind is a lot of muscle, so I wear a size 8. At 5'6 that's not bad. I've lost 10 pounds so far after getting of the dredded Progesterone hormones last month, even though those MD's keep saying it does not make you gain weight.>>>>>
{He's says it's not me....... I wanna believe him. He says he doesn't even get thet *stirring* feeling seeing a hot chick at the gym (we have very open conversations).}
*4*- He has been dx with a low testosterone level. finally after a long time, he went and got checked. He did a cycle, and it still came back low, so they upped his dose, and he should be doing another cycle with the higher dose soon. >>>>>
{But is Testosterone really that important in sex drive?? I've read about guys with low T only getting horney once a week. Really? If I could get laid once a week I'd be jumping for joy. Once a month would even be OK at this point.}
*5- he is as affectionate as usual, not distant. I do not suspect an affair.
*6- Almost forgot, he lost his job last July or so.... great for the ego.>>>>
{ Another subconscious punch in the libido gut.}
OH, this has all been going on, then I got diagnosed with breast cancer. Earliest stages, had a mastectomy, getting reconstruction with BIGGER boobs.... yay. I'm sure this does not help matters, but the lack of libido has been going on for a year or so now, the breast CA is only 6 weeks old.
SO AM I CRAZY? IS IT ME? IS THIS NORMAL?