I don't believe age makes a big difference. But with that being said, I would be very careful and use your best judgement.
The person is more important than the age and only you can decide if that person is being true.
Take your time and do not rush into a relationship. Seek advice from friends, family and above all GOD. He will direct you in what direction you should go.
You cannot go wrong with his guidence.

Age doesn't matter. But lets be realistic here. 52 and dating over 60 sounds like a health disater in the making. Ten years and he is 70 and you are 62, you figure. Regardless of his health now. To young has the opposite effect. In our twenties and thirties, age may not matter but there is a point that it does a great deal. Regardless of the emotional impact. Suffering one spouse loss in a life time is more then enough. At least that is my opinion.
Peace Bob

Two of my sisters are 4 years apart. Their husbands, 30 years apart, one, ten years older, one twenty years younger. My husband was 8 years younger than me. So.....I guess if you ask my opinion, I'd have to say it doesn't matter at all.

I married someone 14 years older than I was and in the beginning it didn't matter much. The older he got, the more it mattered. Mike was 6 months younger than I was, and I loved having so much in common with him, so many cultural reference points, etc. Besides, I thought it was kind of cool that we were both in utero at the same time.

My current beau is 3 years older and I also think it is just right. It's great to be able to share an understanding of past historical and cultural events, and to share a love of the Beatles and Bob Dylan.

I've also had men much younger than myself interested, and it just wouldn't feel right to me, unless I was interested in a fling.

Why don't you try a few varied age groups and see what you like best? ;)

Good luck!
Amy

I agree with Bob. Age really doesn't matter, but there are things to consider. I am scared to death of going through losing a spouse again. I think I would find it difficult to date anyone much older than me for that reason, but then again if we let that fear of loss rule us we might miss out on something special. My new husband is 2 years younger than I, but has more health concerns than I. Nothing major, but enough to give me some concern. We are both in our forties now, but what happens in 10 years. Will these issues turn into serious ones? I was almost afraid to continue a relationship with him, but decided I could not let the fear of what "could" happen cheat me out of happiness. After all, Dan was 42, in great shape and perfect health, had never even seen a doctor for illness when cancer struck him. Something I never dreamed possible. So, I guess what I am saying is you should consider age and all that the differences could bring, but also don't miss out on something truly wonderful because of an age difference.

For me it is more about being in the same place in life as my partner. I did date a fellow a few times that was 15 years older than me and I was concerned but it was due mainly because we were at different places in life. I was not sure that it would not become problematic. I have very young grandchildren and all his are over 20 years old. I was not sure how tolerant he would be with the little one. I also like outdoor activities like camping and fishing. He had come to a place where he no longer enjoyed that so I knew that if I wanted to do that I would have to be on my own which defeats the whole purpose of being with somebody. The fellow that I am with is also older than me but not by as many years, just 8 years. He is more active and has grand kids as young as mine are and enjoys them very much. We are at the same place in life so that makes our relationship much easier and more enjoyable. We have more in common and love spending time together enjoying life. As for younger, I would say that it is fine as long as you are comfortable and again at the same place in life together. If he is trying to get you to climb mountains and hang glide and you feel that is pushing things you may want to push the age up a notch. If he is ready to retire to the old folks home you may want to shoot for a little younger.

Thanks for all the responses and I can relate to what each and everyone of ya'll said. So the ages in question are 43 and 57 so I think I just need to go somewhere in between. My biggest concern is getting over the fact the my husband who looked the picture of health died instantly from plaque breaking off. He was only 52 and that is where I have the problem. I certainly do not want to go through this again anytime soon and I know in life there are no guarantees. But now it seems like anyone over 52 seems risky to me. I know I just need to trust in the lord that he will direct me to the path he wants me to take. Thanks again, Hugs, Andree'

I will chime in here. My first husband (who I divorced) was my age. It was disaster. Gary was 10 years younger than me and it was perfect. Someone mentioned health disaster....even though he was a young man, at 30 Gary was diagnosed with end stage renal failure and the last 10 years of our marriage he was ill In fact he would often say he was a young man in an old man's body. He died 5 months ago at the age of 40 an his body truly was that of an 85 year old per autopsy.

I am 51, I am healthy and young. My friends range in age of 18 to 45. I spend a lot of time playing video games, swimming, dancing and hanging out. I have no kids or grandkids...and all of my friends especially the 18-25 year olds say that I don't look, act or in any way shape or form behave like their parents and grandparents. In other words, I have been told....I'm "fun".

I have not slept with or taken any of these relationships past friendship (most of my friends are men). I am starting to think about having a relationship. I will not choose one of these guys because I treasure what we already have and don't want sex to ruin it. I am old enough t know that if you have sex with a friend and the sex ends then usually the frienship does too. In looking for a "boyfriend" my first priority is personality and sense of humor. Age has very little to do with it. My other consideration is health. I just spent the last 10 years of my life caring for someone who was extremely ill. I want someone who can keep up with me and play hard. I have lots of pent up energy...both sexual and physical. So while I don't really care how old or young you are....you do need to be able to go for a hike or swim for an hour or play dance revolution and still have enough energy to move to the bedroom and not fall asleep.

Not sure this answers your question but hope it gives you another perspective. So in my opinon age doesn't matter if it doesn't matter to you. I don't worry about what society thinks or anyone thinks. If I am having a good time and am into him and he is having a good time and is into me who cares....of course, I'm not looking to get married again or find a soulmate. I want a playmate. So this might have something else to do with your decision. If you are looking for something serious than looking at 20 year old might not work, especially if you 50 and he would want to do the whole family thing...kids, mortgage, etc., but if you are like me and just want to have a friend with benefits....someone to have a good time with then I think is isn't an issue.

In my young adult years I dated & married a guy my age...disasterous! He had a lot of growing up to do & decided he'd rather do it alone. Then I dated a man 13 years my senior...lots of fun, but didn't want to get married again...then there was Snake...8 years my senior, we had an LDR for 2 & 1/2 years before I moved to TX, then had 26 & 1/2 good years before he passed away at the age of 56. Joe is 12+ years older than I am...and in better health than I am...but we decided that none of that matters...we could be each be young, in perfect health and still have no guarantees of tomorrow...I lost a friend recently in a car wreck...she was 31, in good health & engaged to be married to a young man 3 years her junior...both lost their lives that evening...so age, health status, none of it matters...what matters is if the relationship meets your needs, whatever they may be, & makes you happy...my mother's last marriage was to a man 13 years her junior, (which I had no problem with, btw. I valued her happiness above all else.)Mom had health issues the last couple years that kept her house-bound most of the time, but my step-dad, when asked if he'd change his choice if he could go back to when they met & know then what the outcome would be, said no, why would he want to sacrifice the 8 great years just to avoid the 2 difficult ones....so I guess it really depends on what you're looking for in the relationship.

And for what it's worth, my new step-daughter is only 10 years my junior...we're on friendly terms...she's fine with her dad being with someone who is closer to her age than his...lol...as long as he's happy, she's happy.

Thanks, I knew I could depend on all of ya'll. Even gave me a few laughs. Well now I know exactly what I need to do thanks to all of ya'll. I just need to have a "PLAYDATE", LOL, just kidding. My kids would kill me! But seriously ya'll have all made some good points. Lots of different experiences from one end of the spectrum to the other. I guess I just need to listen to my "Heart" because I do want it all. I want the house with the white picket fence, oh I already have that. So now I just need to find someone to bring love and laughter back inside of it. I miss all the family gatherings and the smiles, the laughter, the joy, I know maybe I am dreaming, but like I was always told either dream big or don't dream at all. I am the good girl next door, but I am looking for the guy next door with a little bit of bad! So now that I know what I am looking for I am sure he will be totally opposite. I decided 43 is too young only 12 yrs. older than my daughter can't go there so thanks again.

Continue to be picky. There is no reason that you can't have it all. That is what I was determined to have and that is what I found. On our first coffee date, Dave asked me what I wanted in a relationship and I told him that I wanted everything or in other words that I wanted it all. Yup. He told me that he had it all. LOL He does. That man is out there for you. Be patient and keep looking.

For me, age does matter. I want to share the common ground of "our generation". I am 53 years old and my age range for a date is 50 to 56. Pretty narrow, yes I know. My husband was 3 months younger than I and we had so much in common from our tastes in music, politics, and history of coming to age in the 70's.

Of course this is all personal choice. You need to decide for yourself what is right for you.

Linda

I don't have much experience on this topic but I think 'who' he is is much more important that how old he or she is. If he has what you are looking for and you are being realistic about the relationship you want and 'he' fulfills your needs and makes you happy he is the guy for you.

Disclaimer: Both my husband and my guy now are the same age as me........so what do I know? LOL

My entire life I preferre men who were quite a lot older than myself. My first marriage my ex husband was the same age as me. Then my late husband was 11 years older than me. As someone said earlier, it was fine when we were still young but the older we got the more it became a problem for me. I was 50 when he died and he was 61 - but acting 70 - and it was getting me down big time. I have decided this time around I want someone either my own age, a bit younger or max two or three years older. I'm currently long distance dating a guy who is 51 - I will be 53 soon - so far its great! My disaster date in February was 60 and looking back, thank goodness it didnt work out, because I realize now that he needed someone to faff over and molly coddle him. I need someone to have fun with and live life to the full. So no more oldies for me!! Not too young either ;-)