Highly Sensitive People HSP Community Group
The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
I new friend mentioned to me (in a message I failed to respond to, but I think they know) that I should share more of me. I have posted here some, but not always shared a lot of me. Maybe not intentional, maybe a bit. My life has been chaotic lately and my energy is scattered everywhere. However, I did spend a very late evening (effectively qualifying as morning) talking with both my kids. It was just one of those special moments in time. It is funny for all our shared gifts and strange happenings and chaotic family life, we have never really shared on this level in such a straight forward manner.
So, I told my kids about being in kindergarten, five-years-old, and being involved in the bus accident. I told my kids how much it changed me, just this one event. I was so terribly upset and the teacher just could not understand. I could not explain that I was okay, that I knew my brother was okay and that I was just completely overwhelmed by all the fear I felt from the other kids all through me - to this day I remember the fear of one girl in particular, her name was Mary. She was a lot older and I never really knew her, but I've never forgotten the feel of her. In the end, the teacher had to send me home that day. In just this small incident, that young, I learned that it was not normal, that if you tried to tell people you were feeling these things, you were not believed. I became very quiet after that. To the point that my parents were called to multiple conferences with teachers thinking something was really wrong with me or really wrong at home. I am lucky that my parents at least told them I was absolutely normal and there was absolutely nothing wrong with me.
I'm fairly certain that I didn't really talk to anyone outside of my family and about three close friends that I was really connected to until I was 17-18 years old....at least outside of what is required to make it through.
I think this made my children feel so much more normal.
A special thanks to friends here and being able to feel comfortable sharing and to also pass that along.
So, I told my kids about being in kindergarten, five-years-old, and being involved in the bus accident. I told my kids how much it changed me, just this one event. I was so terribly upset and the teacher just could not understand. I could not explain that I was okay, that I knew my brother was okay and that I was just completely overwhelmed by all the fear I felt from the other kids all through me - to this day I remember the fear of one girl in particular, her name was Mary. She was a lot older and I never really knew her, but I've never forgotten the feel of her. In the end, the teacher had to send me home that day. In just this small incident, that young, I learned that it was not normal, that if you tried to tell people you were feeling these things, you were not believed. I became very quiet after that. To the point that my parents were called to multiple conferences with teachers thinking something was really wrong with me or really wrong at home. I am lucky that my parents at least told them I was absolutely normal and there was absolutely nothing wrong with me.
I'm fairly certain that I didn't really talk to anyone outside of my family and about three close friends that I was really connected to until I was 17-18 years old....at least outside of what is required to make it through.
I think this made my children feel so much more normal.
A special thanks to friends here and being able to feel comfortable sharing and to also pass that along.
If it is so, they are lucky to have you, who totally understands them. They will feel absolutely normal.
I guess it can be ok to pretend you're normal for most of the people, when you know who you are and you have close people to support you.