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Constant Worrying

SuzieC10
SuzieC10
How do you take control of the constant worrying. Maybe you dont have this problem. But i find myself worrying about almost everything. For example, my friend can have drove across town and i want her to text me when she gets there so i know shes ok. But if she doesnt text me then i brush it off that she just didnt have time to text by time she got there. but then i cant shrug it and i text her because i just keep thinking worse and worse and worse. and i feel like a nag but i just get very bad feelings and i feel like if i dont worry and try to contact her then something will have happened (its almost like a superstition i guess...). if that makes any sense. but it happens with everything. I could be at work and maybe i was annoyed by something and so i took it out on someone else and instead of being like everyone else and just letting it blow over (cause most people forget about that stuff anyway) i will think about it for hours and hours and either end up apologizing or trying to talk about it or just finally have it go away after thinking about it forever (but it all depends on how my relationship is with that person). I just wish i could shake it. Im that person that goes out and will have some drinks with friends but if a disagreement breaks out with someone (it could be minor) i will be thinking about it all the next day and feeling almost depressed because i feel i may have hurt someone or caused a problem or been "that" drunk. But yet everyone else has already forgot about it. Oy..it becomes very stressful. Everyone keeps saying to embrace our sensitivities but how do you do that when outcomes make you feel this way or if those closest to you dont understand and will constantly get mad at you or call you dramatic when you do express emotion.

Im sorry if my posts dont make any sense i just have sooo much going on in my head and so many questions and things i want to vent about that i just dont know where to start. ive never had anyone who actually understands what im saying. Instead its the opposite. anytime i do try to talk to those around me i feel like to them its always a bunch of excuses for my actions.
HollieJ81
HollieJ81
I just wanted to add that being highly sensitive has a lot to do with cortizol leveles and cortizol is related to liver function. HSP's can be difficient in vitamines. I find we don't absorb vitamins as other people would. I have used two products and both work well. One is from my naturalpath it is called Relora-plex the company is douglas laboratories and the one I use right now is called Hpa Plus which is from a company called USANA. I also have an anxiety disorder which I have been able to control with my vitamines and exercise. I also read a lot and one book that will help you to stop worrying and thinking about the past is called "How to forgive when you don't feel like it" by June Hunt. If you can`t forgive yourself for things in the past it is hard to move forward and stop worrying in your current life. It is hard to stop worrying about other people and situations you have no control over. I also read the bible. I don`t know where your views on this is but I find tht most things that bother you you can just give them to God and ask him to forgive you or ask to take the worry away. I have been very successful in ripping the HSP lable off. I don`t like lables and I think we are who we are and that is great but I want to have tough skin and a soft heart not soft skin and a soft heart both. We do need to toughen ourselves up a bit and reading can really help. If you want other book titles I would be happy to share some others that have helped me.
I wish you all the best because it isn`t easy.
Don12
Don12
Hollie - I have been reading about cortisol and it's possible relationship to HSP so it's good to hear your experiences. I could find the Relora-plex at various sites online but nothing on HPAplus. Is it HEPA+ ? I found it at a couple places online. I may stop at a Vitamin place today and see if I can get these locally.

I prefer avoiding rx drugs and prefer dealing with my HSP and other issues by behavior modification. But I truly believe there can be chemical imbalances in many of us and I don't mind trying natural remedies.

I also wonder if my HSP can be related somehow to my high levels of bilirubin. Drs have tested me over the years (blood work, liver biopsy, etc) and there are no liver problems (I am not a heavy drinker). With no other related problems they conclude it's 'normal' for me to have high levels of bilirubin. (Per Mayo Clinic: "Bilirubin is a natural byproduct that results from the normal breakdown of red blood cells. As a normal process, bilirubin is carried in the blood and passes through your liver.")

Perhaps as more people are identified as being HSP someone may start medical studies to see if it there are chemical similarities among us. I'll volunteer :-)

Thanks for the info.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's interesting that you mention cortisol. That is one of my stress hormones - sometimes I feel like I secrete it out of my pores at times! I am going to look into the products that you mention and I am going to read up on the HSP-cortisol connection - do you have any specific online links?
HollieJ81
HollieJ81
Hi Don12 and Crying
It is Hepa plus that I use but I get it from a lady who is a USANA rep. Just be careful what company you get your vitamines and minerals from because you need a product that is high quality especially because you are a HSP. I find we just don't absorb vitamins like other people do. The relora plex is good too but I get it from a naturalpath which is a high quality product. A multi vitamine is important too. I use essentials from USANA. I used NIASITOL for a while but USANA has a higher quality vitamine. It is possible to claim your life back. I have not felt this good in so long and honestly it is so good to be back! I just want others to have the same experience. I know vitamines can cost a bit but feeling good is so worth it.
I do have some online links you can look at
http://www.hsp-stress-relief.com/cortisol-and-stress.html#axzz1b44LFPoj
if you don't have this book it talks about cortisol levels too "highly sensitive person" by Dr. Elaine N. Aron
http://www.anxiety-and-depression-solutions.com/wellness_concerns/community_anxiety/041105_HSP2.php

Hope that helps
HollieJ81
HollieJ81
I do also recomend reading books on self improvement. If you remain positive then you are less likely to worry and be stressed out. it is important for your spouse if you have one to read as well because then it will get both people onto the same page and same level of understanding and it improves the relationship...just my opinion.
I have a long list of recomendations that my husband and I have read and continue to read all of these have been recomended to us by amazing people who have great results in life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks Hollie!
SuzieC10
SuzieC10
yes thank you so much. i want a thinker skin so badly. mine sheds and grows back often. sheds more then grows though. Definitely going to look into all the information above.
SuzieC10
SuzieC10
haha thicker skin*
Don12
Don12
Yes, this is very helpful information. My trouble is it can be a bit overwhelming. How does one really know what supplements to take? And, if you take several different ones, then how do you know what is the one that is working? Trial and error? It takes weeks for most supplements to have much effect and there is no control group to compare with. Then, there may be other factors affecting your moods and behaviors.

I went to a very reliable vitamin store looking for the 2 items Hollie mentioned. Of course they didn't have the exact ones but did have ones substantially similar. It all seems to boil down to what is in their 'proprietary blend'. And the many options in such stores (or on web pages) are mind boggling, at least to me.

These links are helpful but then when you follow other links, e.g the Ayurveda Approach, they take you into a whole other realm of health maintenance. All the many options seems to be hard on this HSP. :-)
HollieJ81
HollieJ81
Don12 I agree with you 100% You make an excellent point. I did go through a lot oftrial and error. I was an a med from my doctor that made me worse for a while. (can't remember what) I went to the naturalpath and spent over an hour with her just talking about everything. She was excellent and told me what was wrong and what I needed and if something didn't work she said she would change it up. She did great and I was much better not back to my old self everyday though. I had a friend introduce me to USANA and it has been great. It does take trial and error unfortunatly but I didn't go through much error. The options are overwhelming that is why I said enough is enough I wasnt a real answer so I chose to see a naturalpath.
This is what worked for me, all I am saying is that it is possible to not feel so overwhlemed all the time and yes thicken our skin so we can handle stressful situations. I just want people to have hope and there are answers out there we just need to look in the right places. Vitamins, exercise, and reading positive books worked for me. I feel like a new person.