I'm so sorry your having to go through this, I think almost all of us have had one of those really bad ones. And I feel you on the fibro part too, I have it as well. And your assumption that the doctor that told you that people grow out of HS having no idea what she was talking about is point on. We have all had to deal with retarded doctors that didn't know what to do with us, so either blamed it on weight, smoking, not being clean, or told us that eventually it would go away. If I had a quarter for each time some doctor has told me that (and in turn given me the urge to slap the snot out of them!) I would be a rich lady indeed..lol
I'm stage 3 (or so my doctor has told me) and tramadol doesn't begin to touch the discomfort of my outbreaks, although I sincerely wish it did, as I don't much like the side effects of narcotic meds, but right now it is the only thing getting me by.
I have had many many many many lancings, and they are a night mare, hence why unless I absolutely HAVE to I avoid it at all costs.
I am scheduling myself for surgery to remove the damaged areas in my armpits, in an attempt to get some relief in that area. I know it is not 100% and there is the chance of recurrence, But I'm willing to chance it, even if it does only give me peace for a small while. I have had this since I was 19.
My mom used to get abscesses, but only in her inner lady area, and it was not very often when she did, but when she did it was a doozy to say the least. For a long time I didn't know how the heck she put up with it. Now I know all too well. My sister also has it, but so very mildly, one would like it not even worth mentioning.
And yeah, it sucks. I have one on the inside of my left thigh, right where the inner thighs meet, and right where the seams of pants run right beside it. I can't wear most underwear, so for the most part I go commando, which has helped some, but all it has done has aggravated this one particular one. So I feel ya. Hang in there, and keep posting, there are many folks here with ideas and home remedies that have worked for some. I do hope you are able to find something to make this easier to bear. My message box is always open if you need an ear to bend or need help finding information on our forum. Best of luck to you.

I have them in my inner labia too...4 of them going all at once. Mine grew to the size of a Baseball. At first I thought I had a bladder infection, turned out not to be. It took 2 weeks to burst and I was fine for awhile but now I can not Pee without a towel or I will see stars.

I am in tears reading this and ShannonA's reply.

First, ditch your Doctor...and google those who specialize in HS (good luck, cuz it ain't many).

It does not "go away" ...it hides until disrupted..laying in wait.

I just visited the HS Institute website and under FAQ the question is "does it go away?" and the flat answer is NO. No additional comments....just NO.

It was disappointing to say the least..however, it is NOT CONTAGIOUS NOR INFECTIOUS and appears to be inflammatory in nature. Might add fish oil to my diet of hopeful cures.

With regards to Respectful...I just simply cried out...as having HS on the Labia is painful, embarrassing and majorly inconvenient. I worry about self-contamination when going to the bathroom.

I just don't know how I got here....I try to remember the early stages, what was going on in my style of life....just can't pin-point it.

People talk about the worst places to have HS...I'm thinking any place is a bad place, but during defecation has the potential of exacerbation of the disease...especially near the anus or vaginal region while sores are open and draining. Sigh.

I feel your pain! Man o man!! As of 4 years ago i requested "pain management" for HS. So now im a norco junkie! The norco's do not help unless i take like 3 at once! Believe me i have done it before out of sheer desperation. 2 months ago a trip to the ER again, my labia/inner thigh area swelled so bad i could not walk!!! And the way they do the I & D is nothing short of being BARBARIC! I had to BEG for a morphine shot, and they did NOT give me enough! They stuck that needle down in there to shoot the lidocaine in it, OMG i screamed like i was dying! He packed it with that string stuff and GOD when i got home, i removed it for it was causing SO much intense pain! When i pulled it out, i bled for a week! Blood everywhere! Norcos and more norcos. I thought i could just DIE! This HS is NO JOKE! And all of us NEED better treatment! Many years ago i had private insurance and in those good ole days they PUT ME TO SLEEP FIRST! Now i have state medical insurance, and they wont pay for putting yah out! I made a promise to "myself" the next time this happens. i will DEMAND to be put out or else! Geeze! They dont get it!!!

@Dreamer54,
I had the same procedure 3 years ago.

My Mom was in the waiting room and heard me cry out and came running. They sent her back to the reception area.

I begged for general and was told that my insurance would not cover general anesthesia...only local. But of course, I guess I could have written a check for comfort amount. WTF??

I recall while having the procedure done, the doctor was literally standing on his tippy toes, as he PUSHED DOWN on my lesion, to expel the golf-ball size demon.

When I crawled out into the waiting area, folks were horrified, as they knew it was me screaming. I'm no wuss, but this brings me to my knees. My mom just cried as she helped into the car.

I will never have them lanced AGAIN.This is insane.