thanks so much tina!
wait so the baby could get hooked on methadone?
i dont want to put a baby through addiction or withdrawls.. or anything bad

My daughter also thought that she would be able to stay clean when she was pregnant and after her baby was born. She used during pregnancy, was positive for oxy when the baby was born and swore to me, herself and her baby that she would never use again. She was clean for maybe 1 1/2 months after her baby was born and I have had her baby ever since. I'm sorry but you need to work on YOU before you bring a baby into the picture. A baby will NOT make you stay clean.

im sorry to hear that.. is the baby ok?

it will make me stay clean.. i dont want to hurt another baby because i keep making mistakes
and i wouldnt want it to go through addiction
it cant make that choice for itself and i dont want to make it suffer
and abortion and adoption are not options

The baby is ok but she is also very lucky since a lot of babies are born addicted and they go through pure hell being weaned off the crap. I didn't plan on raising any more kids at my age so when you said that you would ask your mom to take care of the baby you better make damn sure that she is willing to do that since a lot of parents wouldn't. Why would you even want to put your baby in a abusive situation to even begin with? I'm sorry and I don't mean to sound harsh but you sound very selfish. If abortion or adoption isn't an option then you really need to take care of yourself. This is a WONDERFUL site, please listen to the people that have posted things to help you out. There are always more fish in the sea as the saying goes.

what do you mean wait????? If you are pregnant meth IS your only option, cold turkey could kill the baby, subi's can cause miscarriage & if you get on meth asap you will have plenty of time to reduce slowly and safely to get down low enough for the baby to have no withdrawal, i found out i was pregnant at 16weeks & went straight on methadone at the advice of the substance missuse team in my area. I got down to 8ml a few days b4 my daughter was born & she was fine & had no withdrawals at all. Obviously the best thing to do is not get pregnant at all when you're an addict but these things happen & whats important now is how you deal with it for the sake of your baby & its got to be done right.

I promised myself I wouldn't answer anymore to this post but I have to. First of all you didn't even know you were pragnant 12 hours and you already have the baby living with your mom that's nice just crank kids out then pawn them off on your poor mother because your bf is an abusive fuck,and you're not ready to be sober. Then you're wondering If the baby will be born addicted because you're on methadone or suboxone. Your GENES WILL PREDISPOSE THAT KID TO ADDICTTION GENIUS! Abortion isn't an option? Why not are you a heroin addicted Christian or something? How about birth control methods being a fuckin option?

whoa hold on.. i never said i was just going to give the baby to my mom right when it was born.. i said that if my boyfriend abuses the baby (even just yelling at it) i would ask my mom to take care of it so i could figure something out and make a new plan.. im trying to plan ways to keep it safe and for it to have a good life..

abortion isnt an option because of certain circumstances that i really dont feel like discussing

apparently you dont understand that this is HARD for me but im trying to turn around my actions and the way im living my life so that the baby isnt fucked up the way that i am
i want it to be HEALTHY and live a HAPPY life..
the best that i can personally provide for it


im sorry that this upsets you soooo much
but you really dont need to yell about it

I tried to give you good, well educated answers but you just shrugged them off so maybe yelling is what you needed. If someone in your life has half a brain they would not want you to have this baby either. It's not going to fix SHIT between you and your bf in fact it's going to further screw you up,but now you will also be screwing up another life.

i know you did.. its not that i shrugged it off.. i actually thought about it.. but there are certain circumstances that make this very hard..
i dont expect it to fix things between us at all.. this was not planned.. obviously.. if i was planned i would have gotten sober much sooner

im trying to make plans so that i dont screw its life up.. because it IS a person who cant make choices for themself so i have to make the choices that will give it a safe life.. and i know that.. believe me im trying.. :/

I commend you for trying and wish you the best I do, but this isn't the time in your life to bring another life into this world.

my daughter used suboxone. It is good for detoxing from heroin but, for longer term use I found that she just started using heroin when she could and the suboxone when she didn't she didn't have the heroin. So I refuse to pay for the suboxone now. She gets it illegally not for when she is withdrawing. or to ovoid failing a drug test.