Heroin Addiction & Recovery Support Group

Heroin is a highly addictive drug with severe withdrawal symptoms that can start as soon as hours after use of the drug stops. Withdrawal symptoms include extreme sweating and achiness, nausea, vomiting, cramping which causes "kicking," chills, and more. If you are struggling with a heroin addiction, there is help. Join the group and get support.

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free2bin2018
free2bin2018

hello , I am a mother of a 28 year old son who is a heroin addict. He hit his bottom last month. He is now in a rehab in Michigan, far, far away from California where we live and where his drug addicted friends are . He did so well the first few weeks , gained 10 lbs and was so happy being sober . However the last week he has been calling and saying he needs a break . He wants a one week break and then wants to go back, but It doesn't work like that .


My son has NO insurance so we paid 30,000 for him to go 90 days.i don't get it , why is he doing this ?  He says it's not because he wants to use. He says he just needs a break from the food, the classes etc.... I am at my wits end with him , he is a grown man and he can do what he wants but if he leaves he can't go back which means he's out and I'm out 20 grand and then need to worry about him ? 


Since he has been in rehab I have had the best sleep I've had in the past 10 years . I am starting to get anxiety and sleepless nights again . I can't wrap my head his need to leave the center . What to do? he won't even call me cause he knows I am not okay with that idea. Instead he calls his girl friend and whines to her . Any suggestions from this group would be helpful . 

machoorozconpollo
machoorozconpollo
Hi Mom, sorry no one has replied back to you. I know a better place where u can go where other moms are at who are all in your shoes and give out the best support. If u post something It will be a reply in at least 30 mins. But when ur son says he wants a break, does that mean a sober break or does he specifically mean a lapse break?because that would be very careless of him to let u waste all that good money. U could of used it for something more meaningful. I'm sorry, I didn't introduce myself. I'm Jessica aka machoorozconpollo. I too am a 7 year old heroin addict that's 37 years old. If u believe in ur higher power, then pray for him. What about going to any narconan meeting those are like NA meetings except narconans are for the family or friends of the addict where they can go and get the support the so very much need. Well I'm sorry if I wasn't much help to you. But let me know if I can help you with any thing else. And please keep coming back to post some more. Good luck to you. Bye.
user1064
user1064
Hello there. Congrats to your son for getting started. Sounds like you love him very much and youve made a significant investment in his health. I think it's completely normal to be concerned about him wanting to leave for any reason. You can say no - Financially, it sounds like the decision to leave rests on your shoulders still. You mentioned he's a grown adult but He might not be at the point yet where he considers how your position is influenced financially, along with your own well being (sleep). People in treatment are often focused on themselves at the time and mot considering those things. Hopefully his gf will be able to be there for him to at least listen if you and him bump heads on the topic. Most addicts looking for a way out of their treatment plans need to feel effectively "heard". I'm hearing your concerns too and hoping for a healthy recovery and positive relationship for the both of you going forward.
horsepad
horsepad
My daughter is a addict. She has been in and out of rehab, county jail, prison because of her addiction. I am also a guardian ad litem for juvenile court. All my clients parents are drug addicts. I have been around addicts many, many years. Do not let him leave. One BIG lesson I learned is addicts, lie, lie, lie..
machoorozconpollo
machoorozconpollo
Horsepad is absolutely right. We lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, fake cry and all that.! Don't let him fool you!
SDB21
SDB21
I have a cousin that is an addict and has been for a while. It's been crazy seeing how she used to be compared to now. It's a sad sight to see especially when her immediate family has tried and given so much help and support to her. They don't know what to really do any more, except hope that she hits absolute rock bottom and has to change for herself. It doesn't seem like that time is coming soon, but we all hope she can get sober and change her life.
nicolejrzgrl
nicolejrzgrl
Hello I am a recovering heroin addict. I will tell you now by him saying he needs a break from the classes, food, etc. is a bunch of bull. he's NOT READY to be or stay clean. Trust me I gave every excuse I could to get out of where I was. He may be ok for a little while (not long) and go right back to his old behaviors. I hate to say this but nine times out of ten when we are in rehab for a period of time we come out thinking that we can do the same amount of the heroin we did before rehab and overdose. Some of us survive and some of us dont. Especially if it has fetanyl in it. So my suggestion is not answer his calls you may actually be helping him by this. the worst thing you can do is be an enabler. There is a support group that you can physically go to named Nar-anon. There are men and women there that are going through the same thing as you. My mom went and it did wonders for her. I didnt like her going because they taught her how not to enable me and so on. i hope this was helpful. please keep me posted. Good luck! oh and you can google Nar-anon.
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