sometimes things happen for s reason maybe its time to work on YOURSELF. if he truly loves you when he feels better he'll be back. rehab people and hafe way people always say dont date. i have been thow it and me and my guy are still together working together for the same thing staying clean. just be his friend and i believe every thing will work out good luck-nikkie

As someone who has gone through the recovery process, I know where he is coming from. In treatment, you are strongly advised not to engage in a relationship for at least a year after being clean. Have you ever heard the saying " you can't love someone else unless you love yourself"? Most addicts have a very low opinion of themselves by nature, and the behaviors that are characteristic of addicts only create a worse self image. I would be willing to bet that part of the reason that he has chosen to end the relationship is because he feels guilty for many of the things that he did or said to you while he was using. Right now, he really does need to focus on fixing himself with as little distractions as possible.
I know that does not take the pain away from you, but try to understand that he is following the advice that is being given to him by those whose care he is currently under. It sounds like he is doing just what he needs to be doing in order to save his life. Take your time to grieve the loss of the relationship, and I am sure that the two of you will remain close for life. Us addicts never forget those who were there for us during are most desperate times of need. It speaks to your character that you were able to support him through those difficult times. Have faith that things will work out for you!!
If you need to talk, let me know!! Best of luck, and stay strong!!

Hi
I have been an addict for 13 years, addicted to heroin, i have been in rehab several times. The first thing they tell you in rehab is to cut your past away and live independently,. Give him time, he will be confused and his head will be all over the place.. He may have issues in the fact that you remind him of using, also you may have triggers that make him think of the past..Its hard i know, and people like you are a god send, its hard to find a partner that understands and wants the best for you,..I hope things work out..
Kympton

htat is not rite wut he did cuase in life we always need someone to love us and help us tru the tough times we have in our life just hang in there

Try not to take it as a personal thing. I'm sure that he cares for you, but he needs to put his recovery first. Fighting an addiction can take all you have. He needs to totally focuse on recovery. As someone has said earlier we are usually advised to stay out of relationships the first year. Relationships can have very strong emotions that we can find hard dealing with. Most of us need time to let our emotions grow a bit. Our emotions usually stop when we start using. In my marriage, I didn't know how to be around my wife clean. It was terifying. I was younger then, but shortly after my first treatment center, probably a day or two, I was right back to using because I just couldn't handle it. I was more comfortable with my wife high. So don't think it's something you did, or a fault you have. It may be nothing at all to do with you. He's most likely trying to do what he needs to do right now. You never know what the future holds, so don't completly give up. Just take a break. Wish you the best. James

Addiction to anything is a monster - and it takes everything one has to beat it - some people can't have other things in their life as they journey down the bumpy, hard road of achieving staying cleaning and maintaining recovery.

You want him clean right? Then this shouldn't be about you and what you've done or what you want. If you want him clean, let him do what he has to do. Be his friend - you can't predict the future, but you've already seen the past.

Peace to you.

love him and leave im and resect his decision with love- you never know he just might come back to you when he feels better

but he wont if you dont let him go- its the hardets thing to do but you have to let him go with your blessing and permission- its hard i know but staying with somone is not a duty.

i do know how you feel but i also know that he is in a serious place right now and is also probably following advice from professionals.

that said the blighter will probably meet someone new in re hab or something! and that puts his "i need to be on my own" thing in perspective!

find someone who is willing to commit and who is just as willing as you are

I know you are angry, but let him worry about himself right now. You can not have a happy healthy relationship until he can get his addiction under control. Allow him to have time to fix himself, and maybe one day things will work out for you and him again.