Say no. When he comes at it that way tell him saying that turns you off and if he wants some he needs to say or do things that will turn you on or your not going to do it. If you keep reinforcing that that is all the effort he needs to put in for him to get what he wants why should he put in any more effort? The sex is amazing now, but trust me, with time it will change and won't be so amazing anymore if he keeps up this type of minimal effort and lack of consideration for your needs.

I totally relate here, my ex was just like this. We would be laying in bed, and instead of kissing me or touching me or something, he would just say "wanna have sex" or "wanna suck my dick"

Its not like I didn't want to before, but when you come out and say it so boring like that i dont really want to anymore lol.

Sometimes guys are just not very romantic creatures, especially when you get into that comfort zone with them.

When i was in your situation, i told him about it, but it never really did any good lol. I agree with tantrica, say no. Eventually he will have to change his approach of he will never get laid.

"Go fuck yourself, literally.", comes to mind as my response to that.

For me the foreplay was the best part, it took my ex ages to get going, all the better for me I thought, unless the lady is satisfied I dont get satisfied, simple as that.

Meh. I hate it when my bf says "come here and suck my dick". You know what that conjures up in my mind? A velvet smoking jacket, a cigar and a sneer on his face. He's not a pimp, and I aint his "ho". You wanna have sex with me, get me in the mood properly!! I resent being spoken to like I'm there to have sex at his convenience

I would tell him to suck his own dick, or failing that, get a bloke to do it for him instead. He either respects you or you piss him off out of your life altogether, he sure sound like a disprespectful ass to me.

...dont get me wrong, I love being sucked, but to be so self-centered to say.."come here and suck my dick" is just down right disrespectful. Choice words and a passionate attitude that you want to be with that person will get you more than a half-ass blowjob for sure.......

well he is a straight to the point person in every aspect of his life, but egoradel i completely agree when he comes at me like that IF he gets it at all (cause im so pissed i usually tell him to go fuck hisself) it is half ass and to be honest most of the time i want to bite the shit out of it. but when he is passionate and gives me the foreplay first it is waayy better. he always compliments me when i do give him head, sometimes i even make him cry out in pleasure. he wants it all the time too. i dont mind doing it but i dont want to do it all the time especially if i know sex is not goin to follow it. also when im doing it, its for like 30-45 minutes that is just way to long for me, my jaw starts to lock up and my neck starts to hurt and i get just plain bored of pleasuring someone who sometimes wont even touch me back while im doin it.

There is a time and place for that kind of talk but it doesn't cut it all the time. I'd have a heart to heart with him. Personally I like it once in a while, but I like variety and depending on our moods would depend on how we speak to one another and make love.

ooooh, I know. Why don't you try saying to him, randomly, "Come here and put your face between my thighs" or "get that tongue on my clit".......if he looks at you with disgust or trepidation say "Yeah! Not nice, is it?" If he responds with delight, it's clear that he's the type that likes instruction. Sometimes our partners treat us the way they want to be treated when it comes to sex, hoping that we'll get the message. If that's the case, go with the flow and then talk about it after.

Love Magic's last response -PERFECT.

Sad that some men don't realize women are like irons, we need time to warm up. I had a boyfriend that would poke me with his dick in my back to tell me he wanted sex.

Um, that's a big NO

Lav, you should have open palm smacked it.

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Mercedes, I can jive with that. :)

I use all of my resources on the wife. Between either trying to be romantic and caressing and petting to just plain asking for it. So i just pretty much wait until she decides she wants it.

In the 1969 movie, "Joe", the lead character is in bed with a hippie woman. He rolls on top of her and she says, "No foreplay?" He responds, "Baby, I don't need any foreplay."

Personally, I like extended foreplay. That's where the fun is.