That is exactly what I was going to ask you, are you confusing A-holes with bad boys?

What is the difference be between an a-hole and a bad boy? doesn't the word "bad" indicate that he too is an a-hole? Or bad is in taking risks? walking on the wild side?

I guess depending on the person would depend on how they interrupt bad boys and A-holes. To me a bad boy has that wild ass look and attitude and doesn't necessarily have an A-hole attitude. Bad boys are hard to tame and settle down, they give you a thrill and always excitement. An A-hole is just what it is, someone who is rude, cold, arrogant, dishonest, cheater, player etc. But this is just my opinion.

Mercedes, I totally agree with u. U can have a bad boy persona and not be an asshole.

You should open yourself up to Nerds Nikki....all we think about is sex so were good at it. We read up and Google the best techniques!

I used to prefer the bad boy type but anymore ... give me former bad boy who has grown up anytime!

I'm glad you know what I mean Brandy :)

Sap, do they really grow up? The ones I know will never change or want to change but I agree with you. I'm very much attracted to the bad boys and I've had zero luck with them growing up :(

I currently have my male friend living with me and he has tattoos and the attitude and I would consider him a little of both with moments of being sweet and nice when he gets the thoughts in his head that he wants to be "normal' again and have a good life...I see the real him all the time but I'm afraid others mostly see the a-hole.

I think the a-hole comes from being jaded and it is a defense thing more than just being a mean thing. My opinion...

I think there is a huge difference in bad boys and A-holes. A bad boy can be kind, considerate, polite, treat you great when he is with you, make you feel special and important, and be a real sweet talker, while doing the same with lots of other women behind your back. He can be kind of unpredictable, wild and reckless too so there is always excitement. An A-hole on the other hand is a jerk who treats you like shit and makes you feel like he doesn't really care about you. He is often abusive to you and other people as well.

Saph: Grow up? What exactly does that mean? Mellow?

amithesame: So...you prefer that type? The type you always have to worry about screwing around behind your back? Or just don't care if they screw around? Inquiring minds want to know...

Well put Amithesame, that is what I wanted to say but I'd be damned if it came to me when replying. I totally agree with you girlie :)

The definition of a nice guy doesn't exist. The "nice guy" is a fake guy who's trying to get you into bed or in a relationship for the wrong reasons. A "nice guy" usually ends up being an asshole or worse.

I agree with magic that I want (and have) a real guy. An honest guy. He's human. He has his bad days where he's moody as fuck. But he's not too proud of his manhood to apologize when he gets unmoody. He's kind and sweet and thoughtful and funny. He can be messy and forgetful and agitating at times too. I have never duked it out with him, not do I think that is ever healthy. I think it's healthier for discussion and debate rather than screaming your heads off back and forth about nothing. That's just ridiculous, imo.

Fuck nice guys. Because the nice guys end up being assholes. Give me a REAL man.

I used to like bad boys when I was younger. I think it was the challenge of taming them. Now I just like real men which to me means that they are genuine about their emotions and there is a balance between sometimes being an a-hole and a nice guy.

My H has his a-hole moments just as we all do. He can also be incredibly sweet and loving. He has a reckless side but is also very responsible. He is strong and dominant, competitive and athletic, but he can also be very submissive and sensitive, and he appreciates art and music. He can be very open, but also very withdrawn and mysterious. Like me, he's a bit of a mixed bag and I love him with all my heart.

I forgot he has a nerdy side, but can also be very cool and confident.