Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
In talking to a few friends i have come to the understanding that women do it, sex, just to keep their men happy and around. They would be very happy if they didnt have to put out but will just to please the man in her life. my ex was very happy if I hurried and got it up got it over with and got off. Now I understand that this is pretty much the case with most women. I want to know how to please a women and please her over and over as many times as she wants before i please myself once. I know I am opening a huge can of worms with this topic and is has been talked about many times.
If a girl doesnt enjoy sex there could be a couple of reasons. 1. She grew ups with a lot of sitgma about it, and feels like its bad for her to want or enjoy sex, which you could talk with her about, and show her how healthy embracing her sexuality can be. 2. She has a long history of self-serving partners. You can break the cycle by re-training and convincing her that her pleasue is as or more important than your own. Try going down on her and asking for nothing in return a couple of times, then move on to penetration with a toy instead of yourself. This will really show her you are focused on her happines, and then when its time for intercouse she will associate the pentration with her pleasure rather than yours. You may have to work with her to figure out what she likes, she may not eve know yet. Have her tell you, or show uou what feels good for her. And always watch her responses. You will know when you're doing something right! 3. If she doesnt like sex because it causes psyical pain, then a medical solution may be needed.