Sounds like an excuse to me. Perhaps she doesn't really want to kiss you or she has an STD or really bad breath.

I THINK SHES AFRAID OF GETTING GERMS.
VERY CAUTIOUS.

Well you can tell her that she isn't gonna get any more germs from tongue kissing than she'll get from regular kissing, not least from giving head, etc. When you kiss you use saliva to moisten your lips, etc...so she's getting that whether she wants to accept it or not.

Besides, what kind of germs exactly is she worried about getting? Most anything you can get from kissing you can get from standing too close to someone. If she's worried about mono or something like that, thats a little understandable, but why wouldn't she trust that you don't have such "germs"?

She sounds to me like your typical germ freak these days, thats been frightened into staying home in a bubble so they don't get sick. If she thinks her own mouth is clean as it is, she should probably think again...have her look up some info about the average human mouth and what lives inside it, not to mention the billions of bacteria that live in and on our bodies all the time.

Just a fun fact. Dogs have cleaner mouths than humans. And honestly you can get just about as many germs from regular kissing as you can from tongue kissing. Even mono can be spread from regular kissing. So honestly she isn't reducing any of her chances of getting germs so I say why the heck not just add a little tongue.

maybe she doesn't want mono

Sounds as though there's some other issue there, I can't help feeling the germs thing is just an excuse or false front for some underlying problem. Yes, kissing probably *is* unhygienic, but that doesn't stop most people :)

give her this list and she'll have her tongue down your throat in no time:


It helps prevent tooth decay (better than brushing your teeth?) Dr. Peter Gorden, Dental Advisor at the British Dental Association, explains. After eating, your mouth is full of sugar solution and acidic saliva, which cause plaque build up. Kissing is nature's own cleaning process, he adds. It stimulates saliva flow and brings plaque levels down to normal. I asked my dentist and after he blushed, he agreed.

It relieves tension. A passionate kiss is a great relaxation technique, says stress consultant, Michelle Kay Mcnabb. " When your mouth is in a kissing position, you are almost smiling and as our emotions and body language are so closely linked, it's almost impossible to smile and feel tense at the same time," she explains. "Also, your breathing becomes deeper and your eyes close when you kiss; that's what you do when you relax. It's a perfect way to shut out the world."

It helps you lose weight.-- just how long can you do that? You need use 3000 calories to lose one pound, i.e., 30,000 minutes, 500 hours... "A long kiss makes the metabolism burn up sugar faster than usual," says Claire Potter. "The calories burned depend on the intensity, but you can rely on 10 calories for every 10 minutes."

It slows the aging process. (That's important! ) "Kissing helps to tone your cheek and jaw muscles, so they're less likely to sag," says Cosmo's Fitness Consultant, Claire Potter.

It increases fitness levels. (Okay, now there is really no reason why you can't start some exercise now). Your heart is pumping, your pulse is racing..."If kissing is exciting, you release adrenaline into the bloodstream and your heart pumps more blood around your body, says Dr. Susan Hotchkies. "It's a great cardiovascular workout."

Its a good indication of what's to come. (Make sure he or she is not married, please ). Kissing a new guy gives you the perfect opportunity to check out his pheromones - the chemical messengers that signal sexual attraction. " The first kiss is always a good way to work out if there's any chemistry between you, "says Paul Brown, a sexual and marital therapist. " In humans, it's thought that smells plays a vital part in subconscious attraction, and if your pheromones aren't 'in tune', you're unlikely to hit off!

It boosts self-esteem. (Just make sure you have a good dental insurance and be careful with braces on your teeth!) There's nothing better than a passionate kiss for a major dose of feel good factor. "In theory, when you're kissing, you're happy. And when you're happy, you feel good about yourself," says psychotherapist Paul Zeal.


i got this off a health website, so it should be true

I think it means shes afraid youll find out she's a biter! LOL That's messed up.

Thats about the craziest thing I've ever heard. Hypocondriac much?

There are people who are genuinely afraid of germs. Maybe she has some underlying issues that are not really related to kissing, but to an OCD disorder of some kind.

Perhaps the woman doesn't know how to kiss. Many people say they don't like to do things rather than admit they have never actually tried. She may very well be a woman who doesn't know how to kiss. Or it could be that she is not a very good kisser. Sad. Kissing is very important. It's very sensual. If you like to kiss, you'd be better off dtopping this woman for one who loves to kiss.

Sounds like an excuse to me.

ALL OF YOUR RESPONSES HAVE BEEN GREAT. ESPECIALLY THE DARK KNIGHT THANKS FOR YOUR
ADDL INPUT. I'AM FUSTRATED BECAUSE SHE'S NOT VERY SENSUAL AT ALL BUT GIVES VERY GOOD MESSAGES. SHE'S NOT EVEN INTO TOUCHING THAT MUCH EITHER ACCEPT FOR THE MESSAGES THATS ABOUT IT. SHE'S
A NEAT FREAK. SHE'S ALERGIC TO DUST !! SHE'S FROM POLAND BUT IN YHE US FOR MANY YRS NOW. SHE SAYS IN EUROPE THEY DONT TONGUE KISS ? THEY STICK THE TONGUE IN ABOUT 1 INCH THATS IT,SHE DID IT ONCE BUT HAS STOPPED NOW ONLY KISSES ON THE LIPS NO TONGUE ACTION. SHES A VERY SWEET PERSON WHO DOSENT TONGUE KISS.I MIGHT BREAK UP WITH HER. WEVE GONE ON 12 DATES NOW. NO SLEEPOVERS.KEEP YOUR REPLYS COMING !!! THANKS AGAIN TO EVERYONE !!!

I MEANT TO SAY SHE GIVES VERY GOOD MASSAGES,
THATS ABOUT IT.
I WISH SHE GAVE GOOD HEAD.
MAYBE THE NEXT ONE !!!

Dog's mouths are NOT cleaner...
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Health/story?id=1213870

:) Myth!