I get the biggest feeling that this is me in 9 years.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYzdbCbxvlY&feature=related

Damn close to it now!

I'm not sure I've ever had a proper old-fashioned date prior to sleeping with someone lol! I just used to get to know someone in a group situation, party or club, and take it from there.

There are women out there looking to settle down, I think it's just fair to say that as we get older we get much more picky about wanting to commit. I've never been much good at providing catering and cleaning services, so I want to be quite sure a guy will do his fair share before I move in with him ;)

I met my husband from an internet dating site, i went out with about 4 other guys on dates before finally meeting "the one" and was not sexual beyond a kiss with any of them until i met my husband..mostly because i was scared of getting an sti (i was a peer educator in highschool and had seen so many pictures of nasty diseases it really stuck in my mind)..but anyways, for me dating was fun, it was fun meeting new people even if we didnt exactly click. also, if i ever went on a second date i offered to pay for the meal. i felt it should be equal.

I don't like it, I only do it as means to an end. I know I am on the young side to be "so over" dating but, I am. I continue to suck it up and continue to date and talk to men and all that because that is the only way I know of to find "the one." But, I am tired of being treated like crap, the space cadets, the overly needy, the ones who can't tell me what they are thinking, the ones who only want to talk about nice things, the totally self-absorbed. No, I am not looking for perfection, Mr. good enough would be fine. But certain standards can't be lowered any more than they already have been over the years. So yeah, I hear ya, I only see it as means to an end. And it IS expensive, I don't care who tells you otherwise, I had a cheap jerk late last week guilt-trip me into paying the bill. Now I wouldn't have had much problem spitting it, that's one thing, but this guy had a job and I don't and here he is laying into me about his expenses and blah blah blah. Yeah, if you date enough, the bill adds up. Anyway, in my book, dating is just the painful horrible process before you FINALLY find someone who, hopefully, makes all the pain worth it. But, in the meantime, it all just sucks.

me and Chels are going on a date

I like a lot about dating.... Its can be fun... Sure you are going to go on dates with some weirdos but that is part of the fun.


but getting out there and having fun. I go on a date like this with no expectations, that's where I think some go wrong. Go for fun

That is like going to the dentist to have a root canal....just for fun!

For the now I think that I will just stick to the one lady that has constant been in my life.....the sea.

in case Chels reads this..yes I put out on the first date

Date? you mean like the fruit, right?? cuz if you are talking the whole "relationship" thing..i have no F*ING idea what that is anymore!

I have 3 kids, their dad does NOT (thank the dear God above) take them for visitations..soooo...i'm sorry..what is a date?

believe me, KIT, you're not missing much!!

by the way, I like your current avatar and it was good when you had it before.

It's kind of like being tortured AND having to pay for it! I've been with my GF for 3 years now,and I don't miss that whole scene! I found that most women were looking for Tall,Dark,and Handsome,with a Bulge on both sides of the pants! Just an observation,no need to crucify me! On the other hand,like I heard a guy say once,he wasn't looking for a Relationship,just a Hole! It is amazing the games people play just to get laid! Why not just lay it all out on the table? If you want a relationship,go to a relationship site. If you want sex,go to a sex site! Nothing complicated about that!

Good Point Deuce...good point. I totally agree but it is like a lot of people out there aren't for sure what they are looking for and when they find it they still aren't sure.

I agree with both Duece and Heave. However, there comes a time when you need to be alone for a while and figure out exactly what it is that you're looking and hoping for before you go out and seek it. OR, you stop looking and let it come to you.

dating is over rated kind of but if u don't date u don't get to know anyone, then u have people who just hit and quit it and thats no fun

I hate THE FIRST date. It takes more than one date to get to know each other, so the first date feels so damn awkward, when the two of you are hanging on each other's every word, feeling and gesture.

Go into a date feeling relaxed, have a sense of humor, and be yourself (if that turns her off, you'll know and there will be no second date). If it takes a glass or two of wine before the date to relax, so be it lol. Just don't get totally sloshed so you get busted for DUI or run somebody over on the way to pick her up lol.

If you make it to a THIRD date with the same person, for me, that's when dating gets fun and we both start to relax and laugh with each other. By then, you've established some boundaries and goals for what you both want and, as long as you don't cross those boundaries, the date goes swimmingly and can be a lot of fun-!