Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
Seriously, who enjoys dating? I absolutely hate it and view it is a means to an end. It is expensive, stressful, and you never know how it will turn out. Then after the date you wonder if you will get another date with this person, if you want another date, you don't know when you should call them, and all the other things. It is like a huge game and I hate the game.
Maybe you're just into getting to know someone in a more relaxed way, like at a party or group social thing?
Ironically tho, i didn't meet my current gf from any site lol And we did sleep together on the first date...but it was also because we finally admitted to each other that we both had been attracted to each other for some time lol That was 6 months ago :)
Odds are, by the circumstancial evidence I have, that she was cheating on me.
Oh well, a long story not worth recalling but dating is a pain. Everyone has their own perceptions and intentions and they don't make them clear at all. You think that someone likes you but they aren't interested. The game of when to call them and when not to call them.
It is expensive. I am very traditional and I always pay for everything on a date and I like to bring one flower for my date when I meet her. This gets expensive quickly.
The other problem that I have noticed that people enter the date with different intentions. I would like to find someone special and have a meaningful relationship but a lot of women my age who are single aren't interested in settling down and they just want a free diner and a good time.
I am 31 years old, I have no kids of my own. I would love to meet a woman who has none or one kid and is willing to have a child after marriage. I do feel some pressure here because I don't want to be a father too late in life. I am not pressured and driven enough to sacrifice my principles, my honor, or my needs. I have learned a lot about that from my last marriage where I sacrificed and sacrificed and just ended up being walked on.
This is probably why I am actually enjoying this time off from the dating scene. It isn't like I would turn a date down but since I am not working I can't afford it and feel that I can't project a good self image when I am fustrated about being jobless.
Trust me, i go to my bar usually one every couple weeks. At my age, i just sit at my usual side of the bar with a couple of my buddies that are the same age or older and sit back and watch all the "daters" lol I've never dated or taken anyone home from that bar because i don't shit where i eat, you know?
I was only married to my stbx for just over two years and i was single for 7 years before that, plus being overseas in the war. When i left my last sexless marriage, i knew all i wanted was FWB's for a while and/or FB's, so that's what i went for and that's what i got.
Guess i'm just one of the lucky ones. Left a bad marriage, had more than my share of partners and fun and then the right woman just happened to come along when i wasn't even looking :)
When I was separated/divorced, I had 4 first dates, and all 4 women didn't want a 2nd date with me (I only vaguely found out why later on). When I was 0-4, I think I felt like the biggest loser!