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jokiwhau 04/01/2016

Ok - new one for the gentleman I have been seeing for a couple of months (yes - the one who has had trouble staying hard).

He has told me he wants to tie me to the bed! I have never done this before, and it sounds scary. I am hoping someone here with experience can help me understand why that would be fun? Is this the part where I start asking about safe words and stuff like that??? HELP!

By the way, the issue with not being able to stay hard seems to be getting better as we go. Maybe because I am getting a bit more adventurous with him.....who knows!

Any help would be great peeps! :-)

Joki

marytcontrary 04/01/2016

That would scare me too. I wouldn't do it but you know him. Don't do what makes you uncomfortable.

jokiwhau 04/01/2016

Thanks Mary.....I dont think he would hurt me, but it does seem scary! I was hoping to get comments from people who have tried it too, because I know some people actually enjoy it....lol

Thanks!!!
Joki

cowboy357 04/03/2016

I was with a woman who enjoyed being tied up..
It's mainly a submissive/domination thing.

It can be exciting for both or all ( depending if u have a sex party goin on).

Only be the one being tied up if you feel 100 % safe & trust your partner 100% ... there's alot of crazy ppl in this world..

I couldn't get tied up without having major problems b/c of pain issues & claustrophobia. If I didn't have those problems I would let someone tie me up & be their sex slave.lol

jokiwhau 04/03/2016

Thanks Cowboy!

MsViv 04/03/2016

From what I have heard - Thanks to Leather :-)

Yes, this would be the time to come up with a safe word.

racinggirl 04/20/2016

Ok, I have done this- Ask him to use silk ties to "tie" you up. (pun intended). I agree with Cowboy, it has to be someone you trust. I did enjoy it a lot- For me it wasn't being tied up, it was the fun of getting out of them. (Im not sure if that counts). It was kinda like a game, where I won if I got out of them. Haven't done this is years (my fiance is not that adventurous) but I do say, to this day, (& since i started getting tied up) when ever anybody puts my arms above my head and pins me down- I get the tinglies! That and when they walk up behind me and kiss my neck- Oh man- those are my buttons. lol. But I say- go for it! (if you trust him) you may be pleasantly surprised!

Weissdorn 04/20/2016

Padded leather cuffs with rings on the are the way to go. If he gets the knots wrong, it can really hurt you - and cut off your circulation.

Why would any woman want to be tied up?

Well, I do it, because it really turns him on that he knows that I'm not afraid. It looks weak, but it proves that you have "more balls" than he does. And then I like it because it restricts your movement, which means that you can't push him away when it tickles or tingles. It's a kick "being forced" to endure pleasure.

jokiwhau 04/28/2016

I love the comments - thanks everyone!

somedays 04/28/2016

tie him up but be prepared for him to squirt fast! Ride the cowboy! Drain him out!

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