Depends on how obnoxious it was. If it's wild orgies or something, yeah, my stomach would probably be turned. Don't know if it'd be a turn-off, but it might arouse some fear in me if I heard what a stallion a former lover was--I'd be wondering "gee, how can I possibly compete?".

I'm a firm believer that the past is the past. I won't hold him accountable for actions prior to meeting me, and in return, I don't want him to judge me.

Yeah he was with someone that I am absolutely nauseous to think about.

im sorry cant answer this one my husband was a virgin when i met him but his past gf were nasty and still are

Yeah, I'm with you cuttingmom1. And the worst part is when the whole family gets together and says remember the time....blah blah blah and you have to hear about what your partner and their ex used to do and the fun times. I just want to say, Fuck you. lol Thanks for letting me vent.

Not really, i mean when he was married to his ex he had an affair, but she didnt let him touch her except maybe 4 times a year IF he was lucky.
So i dont blame him, and hes never cheated on me so i choose to move past it and forget it. And to screw him every chance i get or he asks, cause never want to lead him to another woman. Thats my philosiphy.
You cook for him/clean and screw him. Treat him with respect/love and that he feels needed. He wont cheat, as long as hes a good man.

There are some things about one's past, that are best left unspoken. While there are most things that should be shared, there are some things in my past that I wouldn't want to relive by telling someone...leave them where they are..in the past.....why let those few things effect all the good things that I can have??

I was bothered by the fact that I was a virgin when we got together and he wasn't for a while...but over time, I got over it. It's the past; he didn't know me then and it doesn't change anything that we have now. And besides...I know I do it better anyways :)

No point in letting it get to you. What are you going to do about it? Nothing. There is nothing you can do about it.

Now, if you're in a relationship, and discover that there was a gigantic LIE, that's another story altogether.

Depending on the severity of said lie, I could easily cut and run.

I always say that its our past that have made us who we are good bad or otherwise.... So no nothing in her past turns me off or bothers me. . . and as far as sexually is concerned I don't care where or with whom she learned the things she knows I Love what she does to me.

OMG U HAVE NO CLUE THIS IS THE PERFECT PERFECT PERFECT TOPIC FOR ME! I HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THIS SAME EXACT THING INFACT IF U READ MY LAST 4 OR 5 JOURNALS OR SO U WILL SEE! CHANNING AND I HAVE A SUPER SUPER CRAZY PAST AND HERE LATELY I HAVE BEEN REALLY UPSET BC HIS EX MSG HIM SO I MSGED HER AND SO BACK AND FORTH WE TALKED AND TXT AND I FOUND OUT THE TRUTH! I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER GD ALL I WANTED WAS THE DAMN TRUTH AND I WOULDNT OF SNOOPED OR ANYTHING..ANYWAYS IF U WANT TO KNOW EVERYTHING U CAN READ MY JOURNALS! ONE THING I LEARNED IS TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH UR PARTNER ITS ALOT EASIER TO DEAL WITH IF UR HONEST AND ALOT HARDER TO TAKE IF UR LIED TO THEN LATER ON U FIND OUT THE TRUTH!

It usually never does when I'm with someone, no. The past is the past.

nope, my h was a man whore and that's how we hooked up. I just happened to have that Voodoo Punanny that got him wrapped around my finger. :)

I can't say it wouldn't.

If I discovered that someone I was dating had been convicted as a rapist or something along those lines?

Cut and run. No matter what I felt for him.

I don't want someone to judge me by my past as they have never walked in my footsteps so they can only assume to know why I have done things I have. In return I don't expect him to not have had his own past and possible have done some things I don't need to know about if it is not effecting me. As was said earlier the past should be left in the past unless it would somehow hurt that person. I feel strongly about this as I have had a very "expierenced" past and have had a man try to judge me and put me in a certian box when he found out about it. It is that old double standard, its great if you can do every amazing sexual thing he can think of but then he comes out of that sexual coma and starts thinking and asking where you learned this or that. He really doesn't want the real answer because that would just make me a whore or a slut since I have so much expierence but it is all good and fine that he has lived the same life. Sorry to rant but I have had a problem with this in a previous relationship that ended badly so it hits a nerve with me.