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So I am a long time lurker so I do know most of the players, or playas as you might consider yourself and I finally have something to post. I have been divorced after a twenty year marriage for around four years now and in that time I have had three relationships. The last one I had was with a great woman my age and it fizzled out for me because I just wasn't feeling it. By that I mean, we got along great, had a mutual lifestyle and were matched up in all ways except perhaps in the bedroom. I just wasn't excited by her.
We broke up two months ago and I met this other woman. She is younger, twenty years younger. We don't match up in lifestyle or really ,most ways but in the bedroom....well she said to me, "I am a bit of a freak" and that seemed to do something to me in a positive way. I have no idea where this will go. As far as I can tell I am not trying to abuse or use her. I understand that her life and mine will probably not stay aligned for a long time, but my relationship with the "appropriate" woman didn't either.
We all know why older men want to have relationships with younger women, because they are physically more attractive, but if the older woman had been a freak I think we would probably still be together.
There is no way to know if someone is a good sexual match until you start having sex and finding someone that is a good match seems a lucky find. Any thoughts for me?
We broke up two months ago and I met this other woman. She is younger, twenty years younger. We don't match up in lifestyle or really ,most ways but in the bedroom....well she said to me, "I am a bit of a freak" and that seemed to do something to me in a positive way. I have no idea where this will go. As far as I can tell I am not trying to abuse or use her. I understand that her life and mine will probably not stay aligned for a long time, but my relationship with the "appropriate" woman didn't either.
We all know why older men want to have relationships with younger women, because they are physically more attractive, but if the older woman had been a freak I think we would probably still be together.
There is no way to know if someone is a good sexual match until you start having sex and finding someone that is a good match seems a lucky find. Any thoughts for me?
TSand, when you say "because they are physically more attractive," was your goal there to ensure you don't get any feedback from the ladies 34 years and older? Because I just saw a few 'Oh Snap' head pops after that one.
Regarding your question, if you're not embarrased to be around her, your ok with bringing her around your kids or friends, and you're not depleting your retirement in the span of a month, then it seems all good to me. If you always have an uneasiness around her unless it's in the bedroom, then you might want to reconsider. Could take a negative toll on you.
Don't hang onto her just because you think only women under 34 can get their bedroom freak on. But if you're compatible in several ways, then just have fun and see where it goes!
* ohhh n a news flash 4 ya. there r some o us more mature women who r freaks 2. u just apparently happened 2 find 1 who wasnt. So mayb u shouldnt knock us all *
p.s. TSand. Less of the rubbing it in and just smash the back out of her while it lasts. please... No brainer
I wooul'd just love to see those early morrning emails saying "I've been nauughty I U neeed y be punicshed!
shit, she hadnt been naughty, she just wasntnt to be punished@
where iS my goddam Rose?
TSand - your older woman comment made a few heads spin.....especially if you are saying 34 is an older woman.
You are right that you don't know if you are compatible with someone in bed until you have been there, but I would think that you wouldn't want to be with someone who you are only compatible with in bed, unless of course your whole objective is to have a bed partner.
Finding the whole package is a hard thing to do - especially since you are old now. (Eye-roll)
Rachels - if you are talking about rose who used to be here, well then a rose by any other name should do it. Meaning, she's still here with a different name.
Go ahead and rob the cradle, dad. Engage those freaky minds, the two of you. Forget about the silky smooth skin, cute face like a cherub and knockout curves...not to impugn any of you more "mature" ladies...you can be plenty hot too.
It'll be fun for awhile, as long as you don't complicate it. When it ends, you can move on, to a more "proper" (age-appropriate) woman.