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dreamchaser230 04/03/2014

Hi

As many of you may know, I have spastic CP. I have no desire to have a boyfriend, because every time I try to find one they all treat me like I'm just some sort of sexual challenge. But, I'm a very sexually oriented person and get turned on really easily. But masturbation is starting to bore me. Any suggestions on new or more exciting things to do?

MrMG 04/03/2014

Look for older, more mature men. By that I don't mean 20 or 30 yrs older than you but perhaps someone in their late 20's or early 30's. When I was 31 I dated a 20 year old woman who turned out to be a nympho. She nearly raped me when I told her on our second date that I intended on waiting awhile before having sex with her. Later she told me that was the answer that she was looking for in a man. We dated for about 6 months before some young stud came and took her away from me. Older men are more concerned about daily living and while they may still want to get into your pants, they are more understanding of your needs. Or at least they should be.

LuvMyTitans 04/04/2014

wow. just wow. sorry Mr. MG.. and that reply was helpful how?

dream. I wish I had some good advice. you are a beautiful woman .

I hope you get some good ideas :)

LMT

shanbanan 04/04/2014

Please don't use the term raped. Not unless you actually were raped. I was raped, worst moment of my life and that term shouldn't be used lightly. Thank you

weather 04/04/2014

what is spastic cp?

deleted_user 04/04/2014

I was raped too. It was a nightmare. And what is this condition you have??

yorman1 04/04/2014

Her condition is probably Cerebral Palsy????

dreamchaser230 04/04/2014

yes Cerebral Palsy

dreamchaser230 04/04/2014

yes Cerebral Palsy

koolman 04/04/2014

How would spastic CP interfere with your ability to have sex? Any differently that it interferes with your ability to swim, horseback ride and all the other things you say you like to do in your profile? Just trying to understand.

MsViv 04/04/2014

I'm not sure what "some sort of sexual challenge" means.

And to those (not one person in particular) who have to continually tell people not to use terms or words because it effects them, well please stop it. You have no idea what others have gone through. If a word or term bothers you please bring it to a pm or ignore the post.

So tired of reading posts that say - this bothers me or that bothers me. If it really comes down to it something in every post will bother the 3000 plus readers on here.

And on that note, I'm done with this thread - please take no offense OP - because the negativity and possession of words in other posts are bothering me.

weather 04/04/2014

Ditto msviv..you rock!

debmitchell 04/04/2014

Maybe try some toys? Or a body pillow, I usually wrap myself around a body pillow when my husband's out of town for awhile. It's no replacement for the real thing, but it's better than nothing.

KittyKai 04/05/2014

I HAVE AN ONLINE FRIEND WHO HAS CP AND IS HARD OF HEARING. SHE IS HAPPILY MARRIED TO A LAWYER!! CP PEOPLE SWEAT A GREAT DEAL AND SO ALWAYS MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE FRESH AND CLEAN WITH A HAPPY, FRIENDLY SMILE ON YOUR FACE.

KK

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