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Shitoma 03/23/2017

I want my boyfriend to be dominating in bedroom. We're dating for quite some time but had sex for only a few times. I want him to take charge of it. I want him to play the active role, dominate me in sex. I prefer the passive role here for myself. I want my boyfriend to initiate sex regularly, take my clothes off by his hand and totally take control of my body then.
I know he is very caring and loving. So I don't fear of being hurt or abused in this process. But how do I tell him to be dominant in bedroom?

koolman 03/23/2017

Just say "I want you to dominate me" and say everything you've described here. We guys can be a little dense and sometimes need a little explicit direction. Then see if he can deliver. Being dominating is either in him or it isn't.

Bubbabiker 03/23/2017

Like Koolman said men can be dense and need to be told sometimes on what a woman wants.

Heck, I didn't realize some of the girls I've dated where kinky until they told me. LOL

MiselfinMI 03/24/2017

I can sooo relate!! It's frustrating. I have asked my husband to be more domineering in the past.. just take me, make me yours... and he sort of tried a few times.

Word of advice, If it's not that great now, and you ask and it doesn't go well it does not get better with time.

Shitoma 03/24/2017

I always thought my boyfriend will be the one to tell me to spread my legs, be aggressive and take control of me in bedroom. I want that kind of spark in bed so very badly.

Bubbabiker 03/24/2017

Tell him!! Don't wait!

ThisToo 03/27/2017

oh , I relate also. I agree with Koolman too though, it is either in him or it isn't. I guess some people can change or learn to be different from their natural tendencies but not everyone. My word of caution ; be careful what you ask for ! My late husband , after I told him I like to be dominated , he eventually became so dominating that it gave me terror and that is not what I wanted. I just wanted to feel the thrill of being desired immensely and I love a manly man you know. But after he did start doing things that way, he liked it TOO much and was unstoppable, even when I said no , or you are hurting me or scaring me, (I can't breathe) etc. I better save the gory details but it felt too much like forceable rape and abuse ....SO, maybe agree on some kind of safe word or something, if he will agree to be more like that. *my lesson learned is I awoke a sleeping monster when I asked for that ! I think we all have kinky secrets or personalities even if we do not seem like it. :)

Bubbabiker 03/27/2017

ThisToo brought up a good point on limits. And as a man he should read the woman's feedback to make sure he doesn't take it to far.

sexysub56 03/28/2017

As a Submissive Woman who is open about my Submissive nature, my Master knows what floats my boat.

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