Naturally, for me it can never be rough or forceful enough for true pleasure . I adore being "man-handled" to the point of escapism . Too bad for you that your woman cant submit a bit more . She doesn't know what she is missing and I don't mean strictly bdsm but the power of having your lover let loose his power can be intoxicating if you are willing ..Hope you will find a compromise .

There is gonna be some ass slapping, hair pulling and name calling involved, to say the least.

My wife has Fibromyalgia so we have to work around it. When she's having a flair it's around 2-3. Very easy and soft. Normally it's 6-7 on the scale. When we were younger it was around 9-10. :)

I'm around a 6 or 7. I want the woman I'm with to be dragging her nails against me in ecstasy, or biting down on my neck from pleasure. You know, just enough to "feel it" but not enough to require a trip to the hospital to have my jugular vein repaired lol

Honestly it depends on what mood I'm in. I'm an aggressive lover by nature, but catch me on another day & I want it slow & sexy, heavy gringing. Majority rules so anywhere from a 6 - 8. I'm open-minded and I explore with my current lover little by little. Funny thing is his butt is just as kinky but we both are letting things out the bag & enjoying together. Hell we both are adventurous.

Sexually eventually you will become frustrated simply because she can't take it the way you want to give it. You 2 are not sexually compatible hon..What will you do down the line?

I've had a 9 before with a previous partner (but not in terms of pain...more in terms of deep, hard, purposeful, animalistic, assertive/aggressive, passion, connection), and at times I think fondly on it because I usually get about a 4 - 5 with my husband during "good" sessions. I think I'm more of a 7 - 8 who secretly likes a 9 and wonders about a 10.

i'm a 10 both as a receiver and giver. that being said i go for all out animalistic nails teeth hair pulling ass slapping pin ya down and flip ya over. i can also go into a Bondage/Domination/Submission/Fetish situation as various players (make sure know all the safe words sweetie). soft and gentle is very nice as a starter and but when it comes down to it i want those passions running high enough to get the cops called. (that actually happened once. the neighbors thought he was killing me.)

I'm probably about a 7. I wonder about a 10 :)
I love being tied up and my partner going all out while I'm pretty much helpless. Rough sex can be very hot. I do enjoy the soft, slow sex too.
Biting, scratching, ass slapping hunger, that's so hot!

I'm a whimp. Don't want it to hurt and no hair pulling or biting. I like gentleness and caring. I want it to be strong enough to feel and all that but no pain. Guess I'm not more than a 2 or 3.

My wife and I are not really into pain...that doesn't change the fact that she tells me she always has "multiple's" when we have sex. Maybe, I have just learned what pleases her and puts a smile on her face for a couple of days. Yes, at 53, I think folks our age are, in fact, better at it than folks in their 20's and 30's.

Quite honestly I have found that most women are like chameleons some days they like to just cuddle (2-3) lol always leads to sex but maybe just mutual masturbation some days they like to make love (4-5) a lot of foreplay pinching and tweaking licking and sucking. Some days they just want to F___Hard and fast (8-9)......A good man knows how to read his partner!!!! Ron

My previous girlfriend was an 8 or 9 and I really miss it. She loved to get on top and would dig her nails into my chest /shoulders when she really got hot. I would take the scratching until it got too painful and then I would grab her arms and hold them to make her stop. This just got her more wound up because she loved to "feel my strength". It would usually end with her crying from happiness as she orgasmed.
It really turned me on to have a woman that into sex. As I mentioned,
my current girlfriend is about a 3. I really miss the hot sex but everything else in our relationship is really good, so I guess Im stuck in the situation. Love hearing that so many others like it kind
of rough so I don't feel like a freak.

When I'm just getting to know someone, gentle. When I've known someone for a long time, we're both sufficiently comfortable and even bored, to shake it up and make it interesting, pretty rough at times.

So in the beginning stages of getting to know someone, 3.

After knowing someone for a long time, comfortable and bored, 6-7 at times.

I'm not very rough. I can do intense and passionate, but rough is something I will have to work on and develop. It seems most women nowadays are looking for this and that it is a sign of masculinity. I think I grew up with so much abuse and seeing my mother abused that it is difficult for me to equate love with roughness. I get it just need a patient and kind lover to explore with.