Healthy Sex Support Group
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I have done a lot of thinking lately.
When you start a relationship and you like someone, people tend to have sex after a short time. Then things usually don't turn out the way you wanted them to. The relationship ends, and you are very hurt.
Now, think about waiting and really getting to know the other person. I don't mean go out on a lot of dates, where you are in the same situation over and over again. But do everyday things with each other. Home improvements, cooking a meal, watching a spot at home.
Don't always look your best. See the other person in different situations. How does he/she handle anger, stress etc?
Then if you fine with all of that, and you can TRUST that person, RELY on that person, if that person ADDS to your happiness. Then think about having sex with that person.
During that time, if the person leaves or isn't what you want.. You haven't given yourself to them, you have protected your heart some, and some other parts as well.
SLow down everyone...
Kepp yourself safe.
Hope this makes sense.
When you start a relationship and you like someone, people tend to have sex after a short time. Then things usually don't turn out the way you wanted them to. The relationship ends, and you are very hurt.
Now, think about waiting and really getting to know the other person. I don't mean go out on a lot of dates, where you are in the same situation over and over again. But do everyday things with each other. Home improvements, cooking a meal, watching a spot at home.
Don't always look your best. See the other person in different situations. How does he/she handle anger, stress etc?
Then if you fine with all of that, and you can TRUST that person, RELY on that person, if that person ADDS to your happiness. Then think about having sex with that person.
During that time, if the person leaves or isn't what you want.. You haven't given yourself to them, you have protected your heart some, and some other parts as well.
SLow down everyone...
Kepp yourself safe.
Hope this makes sense.
Being too safe keeps you from getting hurt, yes, and it also keeps you from being totally loved, fulfilled, whole. It sucks that the very thing we need can also hurt us or kill us, but life involves some risk.
I need that safety net, right now.
If a guy can handle that, great. If he can't, he can leave. He isn't the one.
I now have those tools, and I can communicate more effectively to guys about what I want, what is acceptable to me.
Maybe, this can help you too.
I just throw out a warm vibe, because I want to attract someone similarly warm in my local area. In my last relationship, I was throwing out a warm vibe to a woman who was very cold, distant, aloof. Naturally, I felt drained.