Healthy Sex Support Group
This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.
I have done a lot of thinking lately.
When you start a relationship and you like someone, people tend to have sex after a short time. Then things usually don't turn out the way you wanted them to. The relationship ends, and you are very hurt.
Now, think about waiting and really getting to know the other person. I don't mean go out on a lot of dates, where you are in the same situation over and over again. But do everyday things with each other. Home improvements, cooking a meal, watching a spot at home.
Don't always look your best. See the other person in different situations. How does he/she handle anger, stress etc?
Then if you fine with all of that, and you can TRUST that person, RELY on that person, if that person ADDS to your happiness. Then think about having sex with that person.
During that time, if the person leaves or isn't what you want.. You haven't given yourself to them, you have protected your heart some, and some other parts as well.
SLow down everyone...
Kepp yourself safe.
Hope this makes sense.
When you start a relationship and you like someone, people tend to have sex after a short time. Then things usually don't turn out the way you wanted them to. The relationship ends, and you are very hurt.
Now, think about waiting and really getting to know the other person. I don't mean go out on a lot of dates, where you are in the same situation over and over again. But do everyday things with each other. Home improvements, cooking a meal, watching a spot at home.
Don't always look your best. See the other person in different situations. How does he/she handle anger, stress etc?
Then if you fine with all of that, and you can TRUST that person, RELY on that person, if that person ADDS to your happiness. Then think about having sex with that person.
During that time, if the person leaves or isn't what you want.. You haven't given yourself to them, you have protected your heart some, and some other parts as well.
SLow down everyone...
Kepp yourself safe.
Hope this makes sense.
I also say take your time and dont let anyone rush you into a physical relationship. You can have good sex , but its not making love until you have a good relationship.
Sex is part of a relationship. However, you need to ok and accepting of the other person and then add sex.. helps protect the heart. maybe more so for women.
I feel that a lot of guys like for and want to have sex with me, but don't want a long term relationship. That gets old, and I don't want to feel used.
Is sex more important than knowing someone?
we sleep with people before we really know them.. What is more important?
Stop and think!
Trust comes before sex.
I have just learned all of this. It is refreshing in a way. It takes off some of the stress in a new relationship.
I see how I value myself. I will not let some guy devalue me or make pressure me into doing something I'm not ready for. I would rather him leave.. Knowing that I didn't give myself to him.
I am worth so much more, and I AM SO MUCH MORE THEN SEX.
And so are you.
Communicate that to the guy.