did it when i was in a committed relationship, but not since ive been married. The 2 of them didn't do anything to each other though, just both stuff to me at the same time....so not the same.

I hope you have a strong enough marriage to do this. Make sure you have rules and know that the other woman is bi or bi-curious or you'll find she is just wanting to enjoy your husband. I have a hard time thinking your husband won't want to join in :) but maybe if you have rules you'll be ok :) make sure you explain this to the other woman so she knows he is off bounds and he is only touching you :) Good luck and let us know how you make out :)

Communication!

Don't be afraid to set rules and limits beforehand. I have had threesomes before, one with my fiance being the one in the middle. Another with me being in the middle. Both worked out pretty great. The threesomes I am referring to were "one night stands" and everything was agree upon before anything happened.

For this to work and for your relationship to come out stronger, you should be openly communicating what you want and need from this encounter to your husband and this new girl you are bringing in.

Then you need to take into account what your husband and the girl expect and want from the encounter. Only when you are all in agreement as to what will happen should you move forward.

Nothing will destroy a relationship faster than a miscommunication. Then afterwards, you should all have another heart-to-heart to make sure everyone is feeling ok so you can part on amiable terms.

Good luck and have fun!
Owl

Excellent advice missowl. I appreciate it.

There was a movie out in 2000 called Trois. It's about a menage a trois that causes problems in a marriage. I don't know why you just made me think of that movie. If you haven't seen it check it out. Good luck and have fun.

I think this is playing with fire and somebody is going to get burned. I don't think it is a good idea ... of course, that is just my opinion.

Have done it. Hard to say how it affected the marriage since it was so dysfunctional anyway. But I would rather be a featured performer than a series regular in that arena, personally.

I agree with bigguy. If you value your marriage and the commitment that you made to each other, why would you open the door to doubt and mistrust?? Marriage is hard enough anymore without intentionally adding to it's possible downfall..

I wouldn't do it.

It would hurt me deeply to see my man touching another woman intimately. Even if he says he wouldn't, it's not a risk I'd take. I'd always wonder if he still respects me.

Some things are best left to fantasy.

I've had men suggest that to me, and I was offended. Role-playing & toys, ok with me. No 3rd party.

That's just me & my opinion.

My first wife and I did it, as well as other things. It was a great turn-on for both of us, but we were well aware that it was just for physical pleasure without emotional attachments.

Sometimes just reminiscing about someone would get us really worked up and would lead to another amazing time together.

All three parties would have to be entirely honest with each other and to yourselves, as well. If any one finds the urge for more than just the physical aspect, that needs to come out to all three immediately and the relationship with the third party ended.

Ehhhhh...you can have the best communication and be honest with each other going in, but, in the heat of the moment, things might get out of hand and those "rules" could very easily be broken. Or a "thing" might continue with the other woman behind your back when you're not around. Or there might be some emotional attachment when there was "supposed" to be none.

Passion is like wildfire. It's very tough to contain it once it gets out.

Bad idea IMO.

It's one of those things that might be great in theory but awful in practice. I think the best 3somes would be between 3 single people, then nobody is left with any issues to fester between them.

You know your relationship better than we- only you truly know if jealousy will be a killer here, because that's the main issue with 3somes- jealousy.

In response to another answer- I don't see how this question is any healthier than any other. It's all healthy as far as I can see.....nothing I've come across so far can be deemed to be highly unhealthy.

We have decided not to include someone else into our bed. I think most of you are right. It would hurt our marriage in the end. We are happy. We just wanted to try something new. Any ideas are welcome.
Thanks for all of the advice everyone.

Have you guys done any role playing? I'm not sure what you've tried or not tried. I can suggest a few things and maybe something might interest you guys.

Sharing fantasies and role play can be a fun way to spice things up.

I have one involving a tennis skirt .... I'm still hoping that my wife remembers when I shard this with her and does something about it :)