Healthy Sex Support Group

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JustinD 01/13/2011

I have been in a long Distance relationship for about 6 months. Shes finally coming to visit next month. We want each other bad! but im a little nervous about being with this girl, is going to be my first time ( she knows im a virgin). The main thing im worried about is finishing to quick.

And being able to pull off certain positions. I have a mild case of Cerebral Palsy. Any thoughts or advice would be great.

deleted_user 01/13/2011

hmmm You didnt say if she is a virgin also. If she isnt she probably knows you will finish fast, just please her first and be ready for round two :) Make sure and discuss it with her, be open about it and it will all be good. You prob heard it before but dont base your skill/knowledge on any porn that you may have seen. Try to relax and have fun. And wear a condom :)

totallychaotic247 01/13/2011

Just relax and be yourself. If you attempt a certain position and it isn't comfortable or doable, then try something different. Enjoy yourself. Let things happen how they happen. Good luck!!!

deleted_user 01/13/2011

I agree with Roxi and Totally.

Pleasure her first and don't worry about getting off too quickly. Being that it's your first time, she'll probably expect it.

As far as positions, try different positions and find what's comfortable and works for you.

scteach01 01/13/2011

The beautiful thing about being with someone is learning what pleases the two of you. Just relax, enjoy, and make the most of it!

egoradel 01/14/2011

...this may sound a bit off cue but I remember that back in my younger, pre-marriage years, knowing I was getting sex that night, would put me in a sexual frenzy all day and finishing too fast was always kinda a let down. I decided to do myself a few hours before the "date" and it actually helped with the staying power. As you get comfortable with your mate your staying power will be more controllable.....good luck and have fun on your Date......don't forget condoms !!!

JustinD 01/14/2011

Thanks for all your insight everyone. make me feel better. definately won't forget the condom. Plus im really looking forward to giving her oral! lol. :) I'll try pleasing myself before our date too.
thanx again

deleted_user 01/14/2011

I feel your pain..........I felt like you even after being married for years..We would go out sometimes for 6 months to a year...That first hug or kiss............It was always for me...........I'ld get mine and when we got home it was her turn. If she knows she's going to be your first...Just lay back,,,,CLOSE YOU EYES ...........and thell her to be GENTLE.................and PLAY SAFE........DON'T BE A FOOL.....WRAP THAT TOOL...........

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