Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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koolman 04/02/2008

Emotional and financial security, folks. If you had a choice, which would you prefer? I'd like both, but it seems, to have one I gotta have the other. When I'm struggling financially, I find it very difficult to relax and get an erection when I'm scared about not having enough dough to pay the bills. And, when the money's there, I'm afraid of someone leeching off my dough and taking it all away! Perhaps I need a career that I'm passionate about instead of sporadic free-lance gigs, and then meet someone in that career...hmmm?

koolman 04/02/2008

Just curious as to how people approach other people for sex. Do you hint at it and talk spicy or just say "I'm horny and need to get fucked." It's different for women than men, of course. Any woman who is even remotely pretty merely makes mention of sex and she's got 20 horny guys slobbering all over her...

deleted_user 04/02/2008

randomly..NEVER that is just gross...I hope that isn't what you mean Kool!

soulsearcher83 04/02/2008

I did freelance stuff like you a while back and I HATED not knowing when I would get my next paycheck or call to do work. One good one then crappy ones for months. So I decided it be best to go back to school. I'm majoring in journalism and minoring in human resources, so I have a back up so I can feed myself while I starve to death. ;)

koolman 04/02/2008

Good for you, soul. South Florida is a mecca for the wedding business; there's always people wanting to come down here and get married in a fantasy wedding on the beach. I've been pretty fortunate to eek out a living at it, but, yeah, I want to be more secure. Trouble is, my interests gravitate toward the arts, which typically don't pay shit. Journalism and human resources sounds financially cushy but I think I'd go out of mind with boredom within two weeks at one of those jobs. But congratulations and good for you!

deleted_user 04/02/2008

I need both security and sex. Which is why I'm holding out for both.
No more second bests.

koolman 04/02/2008

That brings up another point. Is the reason people think about sex so much is because the rest of their lives are boring? Not trying to offend, just curious, guys...

koolman 04/02/2008

I'd like to add that, when I'm bored, yes, my mind drifts to sex (what can I tell ya, it's an instant gratification thing).

soulsearcher83 04/02/2008

Journalism may be cushy, but HR is my backup just in case journalism takes a while to get a good job.

I do think about sex when I'm bored, like in lectures, especially in economics because I have a crush on my teacher hehe :)

deleted_user 04/02/2008

I haven't been bored in many many years...figured out there is WAY too much to do in life....If you are bored it's because you lack imagination...

something people with high sex drives have tons of....

And I'm always horny....

soulsearcher83 04/02/2008

I've got plenty of imagination, thank you very much. *folds arms and looks offended* You have to have imagination if you get turned on by the national gdp.

koolman 04/02/2008

Kate: You're holding out for security and sex. Are you, may I ask, financially secure, and in the past had BFs be the blood-sucking money leeches, or are you struggling and relying on a man to provide that? All's fair...

deleted_user 04/02/2008

It was with this guy known as fucktard.

Yeah, they were all there. And even joined in

Paul, I thought you didnt want everyone to know about your leprechaun costume?? Sheesh. Cats out of the bag.

koolman 04/02/2008

Good for you, Paul. I have tons of imagination and high sex drive too, sometimes TOO much...I think the rest of the world, with their bitching about I-95 traffic and politics, is out of pace with my pace...I don't get bored with ME, I get bored with the rest of the world...but, I guess I'm not putting myself in the correct social situations with happy, go-lucky people! Whaddya do, Paul, besides fuck? I know you're ex-military. Find it difficult adjusting to blah civilian life?

soulsearcher83 04/02/2008

omg paul and kristen? no way!

deleted_user 04/02/2008

Oops!

I thought you knew..... I thought everyone knew.

Well, now you do! Pretty cool huh?

*blushing*

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