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SAFE WORD

GZUSthug
GZUSthug
DO YOU AND YOUR PARTNER USE A SAFE WORD FOR WHEN THE PLEASURE OR PAIN IS TOO INTENSE, AND WHAT IS IT?
koolman
koolman
"STOP" comes to mind.

But I'm not in a relationship, so I can't say at the moment...
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
Stop is not a good one I have to say.

It really depends on what sort of things you are doing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I never heard of someone using a safe word. what is the purpose? I dont want to sound like a dick but can't you just say "hey calm down"
GZUSthug
GZUSthug
OR MY PERSONAL FAVORITE...GET THE FUCK OFF ME BITCH.
IN HOPES TO KEEP MY MARRIAGE GOING STRONG, I THINK I'LL STICK WITH FLOWERS...IT'S "SAFER" THAT WAY.
deleted_user
deleted_user
after last Sunday we decided to have a new safe "phrase"... it's "Redskins kicked the shit out of the Cowboys" ...gets my cock hard every time... (sorry Gus...lol)
GZUSthug
GZUSthug
LOL, COME AND TALK TO ME IN 2 WEEKS WHEN BOTH TEAMS ARE FIGHTING FOR THEIR PLAYOFF LIVES. THEN I'LL GIVE THEM THEIR DUE RESPECT. SERIOUSLY, IT'S WONDERFUL WHAT THEY ARE DOING IN THE MEMORY OF THEIR FALLEN TEAM MATE. I WISH THEM THE BEST...EXCEPT IF THEY PLAY THE COWBOYS IN 2 WEEKS. THEN THEY GOT TO GO HOME FOR THE WINTER.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it's going to be great.....we're really on a roll
deleted_user
deleted_user
In answer to #18 "why use a safeword?", I think the main reason is so it doesn't spoil the role-play/fantasy element that way.
But also ......... anyone else here ever screamed "stop" at the crucial moment when in fact it was the last thing you really wanted? lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
To me no one should need a safe word if you know each other limits, why do you need a safe word?
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
No you till need a safe word. Unrealted things go wrong, cramps etc etc.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I say, "Hu flung dung?"
deleted_user
deleted_user
I sing different songs too, "Stop! In the name of love"...."can't touch this"...."baby, the way you squeeze my lemons I am going to fall out of bed (Led Zeppelin)..."Relax when you want to cum"..."don't go chasing waterfalls"...."she reach down between my legs and ease the seat back (Van Halen)" and so on.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry for goofing up the van halen lyrics. I should have proof read it first. "I reached down between my legs and ease the seat back" is the correct wording. Oh well!
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