I, personally, don't do this. I'm just not that type of girl. I mean, I like all the extras, don't get me wrong. But if I'm not feeling ya, you're gone. I don't care how much stuff you get me or do for me.

What good would that do me in the end?? yes, I do know what I like and want...but, I also know that me doing that to a man makes me no better then what certain men have done to me.

Flutter KIT thanx maybe Im wrong but seems what I asked does take place or does it not?

absolutely it does! I have seen it!! Some like to even brag about this one can do this, that one can do this (for them). Again, it comes back to being self-centered and so extremely selfish.
There ARE those of us out there who are genuine..and then there are the ones you have described above...

In my case you're half right. All the good stuff, the parts about knowing what I want, etc ... all that holds true. Now, the part where you say ... stringing guys along? No. I'm a shameless and constant flirt, but I let 'em know right up front "I'm the only one that gets to be in these pants tonight", which actually includes my bf if he were to magically appear back in town, but whatever. This seems to excite them. They seem to take it as a challenge and work harder "for me", which I'll let 'em do, always letting them know it's pointless. And these are always the guys who wanna complain about being strung along. Where's the string if I'm always reminding you it's not gonna get you anywhere?

*BUMP * for the day timers :D

I just go in for the love of someone and usually it is the other way round that there is a tremendous ammount that is asked of me...!!!!

Sorry Lovebug, don't think I can help you out here...I'm the old breed of lady!

Oh and I think you are most savvy Darlin! Just bring along your Glossy Glue and you'll do just fine!

absolutely not. I think it's morally wrong for men or women to string someone along. making someone jump through hoops is cold and abusive. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and going after it, but you should be up front about it and be considerate enough to let everyone involved know the rules of the game.

Have I used men in the past? Yes.

There's a payoff for every decision in life.

You ask yourself, "What am I getting out of this..."

Even the most selfless people think this way...

I'm past that stage in my life where I'm just looking out for my own needs and ready to find someone that can not only meet those needs, but can challenge me intellectually, hold my attention for longer than a month and can actually be there for me emotionally.

Those ladies that play men TYPICALLY are putting up a tough exterior and a "fuck off" attitude so they can't be hurt again, but deep down there's a tender heart scared to reveal itself for fear it will be broken again.

The key is finding someone worth letting in and trusting they won't hurt you.

...and so I did.

Does it happen yes it does, Do men do it to females yes they do. I have seen MANY guys do what ever it takes to have sex then drop the girl like she had the plauge. Do some men deaerve the same treatment HELL tes. Do I do it myself? No I don't

Hmmmm - tossed I didn't realize I could be all those things...I'm working on stable :)
I know women who do that because it was done to them. That's their excuse. I've always bee the one on the other side - gave more than I got. I think you really know in the first couple dates though. Cats don't change spots - it's there in the attitude and conversation - ya know? reminds me of the song "Let's talk about me".