Oh, well, Mary--there are more important things in life than sex.

What was terrible about the date, BTW?

Dont count yourself out! The old saying of dont put all your eggs in one basket is true here. Dont rely on just one guy to posibly have a relationship with. You can find others!

Best of luck !

I found out a male friend left the area 2 or 3 months ago(we have known each other over 10 years but kept in touch occasionally) (but he was there!) and I just found out he is gone, then this guy came to the store and told me he was leaving but he was still friendly. I'm hoping that means he does still like me.
Later in the season I was going to ask him to go with another friend and me on a short road trip. I'm thinking he will be gone and that opportunity to get more acquainted will be gone.
It seems only Mr No Fat Chicks is the only one left. I am attracted to him the most anyway but he has issues.
The terrible date happened when too many people were with us. I didn't like such a large "group" date! I got annoyed with an older married woman who kept butting in on us. She died last spring. I think he and I could have been ok but now I don't know what to do.

Women have it much easier than men when it comes to attracting a sexual and romantic mate. Just show up to a social occasion, alone, and you'll have 10 guys hitting on you.

I tried that. No one came.
My friend said if we went to a country music program, there were about a half dozen single guys who wanted to have company. I went several times. No body showed up. I wasted the time and money for the show and I don't care for country music.

Maybe try going to an activity that you enjoy. Just have fun. Sometimes we meet people who have similar interests.

If that happens, great.

But, if not, at least you had a fun activity.

Hope this helps.

Mary, if you had a terrible date then why do you care if he is going to Texas? Stop selling yourself short.
And why would going to a country music event be helpful if you don't like country music. Be thankful no one showed up or you would be subjected to music you don't care for the rest of your life..

What are some of the things you like to do? What interests you? Those are the things you should be doing and places you should be going to.

It wasn't the man who caused the terrible date but the extra people who were there. I guess he gave me one chance. I give more. Anyway, since that woman left him, he has been coming to the store and being friendly but we haven't had a real chance to talk.
He is sort of well off, no worries about money so I didn't want him to think I was "after" him for it like she was. I just like to spend time with someone getting to know them. I'm the cheapest date in the world!
Music is a favorite of mine and I can take some country music but not all the time. I have been to concerts by some of the big names.
I think he has the same phone number so I may keep in touch by text. BTW, he looked me up when she left and told me how good I looked. That gave me some encouragement.

do you ever think of trying meetup.com? It is a social organization not a dating site....they have groups devoted to activities that people enjoy like walking, movies or dining on a dime....you look at meetup.com put in your zipcode and it will tell you what is out there in your area....I organize a singles group over 50....but I am stepping down because it costs a lot of money to keep it going with paying at any events I plan like dinners or movies or whatever....

check it out mary they have to have some near you in that part of Illinois

There are not any groups within 25 miles of town. Hummmm.

Aww, sorry, Mary. Yeah, there are more important things in life than sex, but we could all use some good flesh lovin', especially moving into the cold winter months...

Like bowling? Is there a YMCA with a heated pool and jacuzzi near where you live? Get a good workout, possibly find a hunka hunka man and get royally laid, repeatedly...

There is a Y about 15 miles from here, but a bowling alley about a mile away. I used to go to bingo but kept losing money. That got old fast.

Regarding the meetup groups, you can always try starting one. I don't know the exact way to do it, but it is fairly easy , i think if you are already on that site. I am part of it for things like yoga and dog related activities. my dog is my current soulmate. we've been through a lot. a really great guy wooed me just over a year ago and I was absolutely adamant about not wanting to start a relationship since my husband had just died. Long story short, he wore me down ;) and it has been a win/win ever since.
it is not a typical relationship based on how our individual lives are but i don't want to explain all that. To be honest i was checking out this group today because of some things pertaining to my newfound sex life ...things i had never even considered before ....anyway.. you seem like a neighbor of mine....to a point....she wants a relationship but is doing certain things that i feel, are not true to herself.....and she cannot figure out why nothing with guys works out. She wants a commitment....it is her focus but she playing a role to try to snag Mr. Perfect. I mean this in a helpful way. The other posts that said why would you go to country music event when that is not your thing, is what i mean. Though, it is a good thing to be open minded to do things you did not have interest in before. It is way better than not trying new things. Just be sure to be yourself. And leave the bad date guy out of your dreams and plans, is my advice. Why even put energy into figuring it out.....unless it is to learn from it and not repeat. peace ..