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On line dating SUCKS ASS, this is a message i received a few days ago from the creator. Read over it carefully.
LOL
Its no wonder ladies and gents hate it, know one knows who is who.
Let me know what you think.
markus5/20/2013 1:42:39 PM
My name is Markus and I created POF/Plentyoffish. When I created POF, I wanted it to be all about finding relationships with the right person. For the first 7 years this worked really well, I got the site to 10 million users without any employees people and POF was generating a ton of relationships. Around 3 years ago, everyone started using the website via mobile phones. Today about 70% of POF use is via a mobile phone and unfortunately about 2% of men started to use POF as more of a hookup site mostly due the the casual nature of cell phone use.
In sticking with my vision that POF is all about Relationships, I'm going to make a bunch of changes to ensure it stays a relationship-focused site.
1. Any first contact between users that contains sexual references will not be sent. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will be deleted without warning. This rule has actually been in effect since last month and it's made the site so much better.
2. You can only contact people +/- 14 years of your age. There is no reason for a 50 year old man to contact a 18 year old women. The majority of messages sent outside those age ranges are all about hookups. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will get deleted.
3. Intimate Encounters will go away in the next few months. There are 3.3 Million people who use the site every day, of those there are only 6,041 single women looking for Intimate Encounters. Of those 6,041 women, the ones with hot pictures are mostly men pretending to be women. Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women.
In short the vast majority of people will not be impacted. This is because the vast majority of people are not going around spamming women saying "let's have sex tonight". I can't change POF alone, I need your help to get the word out there that POF is all about relationships!
Markus
LOL
Its no wonder ladies and gents hate it, know one knows who is who.
Let me know what you think.
markus5/20/2013 1:42:39 PM
My name is Markus and I created POF/Plentyoffish. When I created POF, I wanted it to be all about finding relationships with the right person. For the first 7 years this worked really well, I got the site to 10 million users without any employees people and POF was generating a ton of relationships. Around 3 years ago, everyone started using the website via mobile phones. Today about 70% of POF use is via a mobile phone and unfortunately about 2% of men started to use POF as more of a hookup site mostly due the the casual nature of cell phone use.
In sticking with my vision that POF is all about Relationships, I'm going to make a bunch of changes to ensure it stays a relationship-focused site.
1. Any first contact between users that contains sexual references will not be sent. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will be deleted without warning. This rule has actually been in effect since last month and it's made the site so much better.
2. You can only contact people +/- 14 years of your age. There is no reason for a 50 year old man to contact a 18 year old women. The majority of messages sent outside those age ranges are all about hookups. Anyone who tries to get around this rule will get deleted.
3. Intimate Encounters will go away in the next few months. There are 3.3 Million people who use the site every day, of those there are only 6,041 single women looking for Intimate Encounters. Of those 6,041 women, the ones with hot pictures are mostly men pretending to be women. Intimate Encounters on POF can be summed up as a bunch of horny men talking to a bunch of horny men pretending to be women.
In short the vast majority of people will not be impacted. This is because the vast majority of people are not going around spamming women saying "let's have sex tonight". I can't change POF alone, I need your help to get the word out there that POF is all about relationships!
Markus
The only thing I like better from POF is the sites layout. It is easier to navigate than Match and much easier to do searches when you are looking for something specific.
The Match.com site is good, but like POF, when a specific quality is stated, then why are those lacking or not having that quality matched. For instance, if I state I will only date from + or - 5yrs of age, why would a 75 yt old be in my match section, lol
Ok, we do not need another Hero, so I will button my lip. Geez, I sm becoming ocd
BTW, you don't sound like Hero....no one is that annoying
The one place i actually met two really nice women on was OKCupid. That one has extensive survey questions and i think the fakers think it is too much trouble and go somewhere easier.
One big problem with all the sites is that if a woman is at all attractive she will be literally inundated with hits. One of the women i met on OKCupid said she was getting hundreds per day. Guys almost never get hits so it is very one-sided. If you are a guy, the odds a woman you are interested in will even see your message is small.
Another funny thing one woman told me is that online dating puts a huge race to have sex into play. It is typical for a woman to date a number of guys at once while she is checking out her hundreds of options and these guys will be all over the place date-wise. Some will be date 1, some might be on date 4. But the first guy she sleeps with usually pulls her off the market for awhile since most women wont sleep with two guys at the same time. The guys know this so there is a huge pressure to bed the quarry before someone else does and much less time actually getting to know someone.
XO (Turner Syndrome - which causes POF)
Says it all really.
I met my husband in a random chatroom on ICQ which no longer exsists....atheist chat room, maybe because they didn't believe In it it stopped being.
Never done actual 'online dating' per se.
Lol
Neither of us was looking for a relationship, just ongoing fwb. Funny how things turn out coz it's certainly more than that now.
So I guess my dating site advice would be don't take it too seriously. And don't write off someone coz they don't immediately make you weak at the knees. I met a few guys & decided to take the fwb direction with this one because he DIDN'T give me butterflies even though I found his personality attractive. The butterflies came. :-) (not suggestinf this will happen for everyone ofcourse)