Healthy Sex Support Group

This community is dedicated to an open discussion about healthy sex and sharing thoughts and feelings about sexuality and improving one's sex life. Most active adults desire to have an active and fulfilling sex life, both for themselves and also their partner. Here we discuss common sexual challenges faced by both men and women.

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shanbanan 03/23/2014

So this may seem weird, but I haven't had sex with my husband for over 4 years. There are many reasons why, I won't go into them, but some are medical issues. During this time I have been going crazy. I get so horny and I don't know how to please myself. I try masturbating but when I find the spot that feels really good, I back off for some reason. I don't know if I've ever cum.
I should clarify that my husband and I didn't have oral sex either. Plus he won't go down on me because it's not fair to him.....I get that but still. We've had issues, are working on them, but I want to turn him on, I want to have sex so bad. Maybe I'm not sexy to him, maybe I'm too negative and depressed, I'm working on that. But in the meantime I need to get off! I have a couple dildo's but they are packed away in storage (because we had friends help us move and we didn't want them coming across those-even if it is natural, it's private). Guess I could buy more....but I'm sure I can please myself without?

shanbanan 03/27/2014

Thanks Spyder! I will try that too

racinggirl 03/28/2014

Lol when I first started having sex with my fiance, he said he had to have sex 4 times a week. I was like yay... But then I tried to let him know that if you hold back a few days, and don't masturbate or have sex, that the orgasam is so much more intense... He didn't believe me... Then as time went on, it just kinda happened where there were a few days when he didn't go & I could tell by the look on his face & the difference in his moan ;) but there's a downsude to craving that bigger more intense orgasam... Less sex :( lol

shanbanan 04/27/2014

well I think I've mastered pleasing myself! I think about it and I get immediately aroused. I've tried different things and found a way to pleasure myself even with my super sensitive clit. I'm so happy!

mannequin 04/27/2014

Is it bad if reading these posts make me super horny?

shanbanan 04/27/2014

No mannequin, it does that for me too

deleted_user 04/27/2014

Well AMEN for being horny : )

faykay 05/02/2014

Please don't give up on intimacy with your husband. He probably has no clue that you're even interested. Don't know if you're dealing with children in the household, but you could find a time and a way to show up in front of him wearing something very revealing like a see-through top (no bra, of course), or a button down top that is just barely buttoned.
Do the two of you touch at all, like hugging or kissing? What is your starting off point? You look like you're too young and too sexy to give up on sex with your man.

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