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jjit
jjit

I am trying to convince my wife to do this to me.  She has done it with 2 previous partners and they both told her they were gay afterwards.  I had been thinking of inserting things in my butt and decided to tell her to insert a finger in me during a bj one night.  Next time I went to the sex shop I discovered prostate massagers and decided to buy 1.  Next time we were having sex I asked her if she'd insert it for me.  She freaked out.  She told me if I wanted things in my butt I should do it when I whack off by myself and not bring it to our bed.  The thing is, the more I do it, the more I like it.  I would really like her to use a strap-on on me.  I am not into men, never was, never will be.  I fear that if I don't satisfy this fetish with her that I may at some point get someone else to do it.  Has anyone else gone through this?

sexysub56
sexysub56
The prostate gland is a perfectly legitimate, normal part of ALL MEN'S SEXUAL RESPONSE. Anal eroticism is a normal part of human sexual response.
jjit
jjit
yes i know all this. convincing her is the trick. the more i talk the more gay she thinks i am and all the clinical sounding websites ive shown her she processes as a bunch of gays trying to pretend that theyre not.
calirn13
calirn13
I am sorry... I am a nurse I don't have a solution but I need to give you advice. Be careful when using toys.. I cannot tell you how many people come into the ER with "things" stuck. I tell people if it doesn't have a safely strap don't stick it up there.
Off my soapbox..
Now, the strap-on.. would getting one that doesn't resemble a penis make her feel better? Does she like anal? Does she use toys?
jjit
jjit
toys are a necessity because she isn't able to have g-spot orgasms. Oral is my best skill but she acts as if she only let's me do that because I want to. I have had some success with a finger on the clit during intercourse but it could take all day and I usually climax before her if we go that route. The thing is that I like more toys than she does. She does like anal on herself but only while drinking. If I broach the subject when she's sober she treats me like some pervy street flasher. Even my general sex drive is an issue for her unless she's drunk. I have a lot of vac-u-lock compatible attachments. Most don't look like penis at all. Her issue is that she feels like the man when wearing the strap-on, as I said she's done it before, just not with me. She doesn't want to assume the dominant role. I've even suggested using a double ender so there would be no dom. The idea of me wanting something in my anus completely weirds her out. I've been engaging in solo play, and yes I know the dangers. Without a base, without a trace. I'm reaching the point that solo play is not as satisfying as it was and I really would like a partner to engage with. I have bought copious amounts of toys and contraptions to enhance solo play but she'll flip on me if I forget to put something back in its hiding place like toy cleaner. Even before I discovered prostate stim I was made to feel like a freak just for whacking off the normal way.