WOW ! him preferring to look at women he can't touch to the real thing?
Kill the electricity !!!!!! lol
SO he needs the blue pill to get his pecker up & it cost money ...
It's worth the money for the intamacy he can spend with his lady.
Viagra costs money herein the USA too, insurance does not cover sexual pleasures even though orgasms are healthy for a man's prostrate & stress release & of course the bonding with a mate...
Yes most men are visual, I know a few who aren't.
I know women who are too. My wife & I are open about 'looking at others b/c we trust eachother & of course with magazines,TV, movies, ect. you can't have sex with it.lol, or ppl out in public a quick glance doesn't hurt.
I know the body type she likes, she knows what I like, no big deal, we know we love eachother & are turned on by eachother,
She don't care if I watch porn , sometimes we watch together,
I bought some that actualy has story lines,plots, they're like regular movies with romantic sex scenes in them, very graphic,they show as much as the average porn scene does, but they're not the just get naked bangin kind.lol. Of course I got my share of those too.
But when we are in our 'private times' my mind's on her, where it should be.
I've know many other women who have their own collection of porn & of course the toys to help them get their 'O'.

When you're in a relationship most of your sexual fantasy time belongs with your partner, if your partner's not 'into it as much as you & refuses to share that time with you. Enjoy your body yourself if you have to.!
We were born with them' feelings' for a reason , use em !

Hi cowboy

Yeah I think the worsening impotence finally got to him and he went back to doc for more V last Dec, but his BP was slightly raised and he was told to monitor it and go back. Doc even said he thought he might be able to get them free now he's over 65.

4 MONTHS later and he's still happily monitoring his BP, which has been lower right from the time he started taking it, and working on losing weight. He's finally made another appt but has to wait a month to see that particular doc as he's semi retired. No doubt when he gets there there'll be another reason he can't get them. Another excuse. I could die waiting for him to actually get round to doing anything.

I think the desire for sex is still there, just not the urgent desire, if that makes sense. As I said, he's happy with the cuddling, the stroking, the massages, the touching, the mutual masturbation, the bjs, the old man sex. He just needs an old woman who's happy with that

"That saying 'men are visual creatures,' is ridiculous...like women aren't?"

Never said that, skies; you did. The content of Las's original post condemned men for being "ridiculous" for being visual by oogling young, visually appealing women. And Las, you didn't say how old YOU are, and I don't want to ask! Since you're very sexual, I can only assume you're at least 10 years younger than he is.

Aging sucks. Blood circulation slows in addition to all sorts of other aging maladies, blood circulation that is needed to make the dick hard. And yes, medications can slow blood circulation. Fine choice, isn't it, live with the help of medication, but not with any quality of life, or die?

Yes, I admit was the wrong word to use, koolman.

And yes, you're right, I am 10 years younger than him.

And indeed, right again. Aging sucks!

I've given the impression that I'm anti porn and anti lovely young women, koolman, but I'm not really. I've enjoyed looking at it with other partners in the past, we've had fun with it, and we were always open about it. It was a good thing. I knew they looked at it on their own too. But it was ok, there was enough to go round.

But there's just something about the way this guy is with it that's been different, and that's why it finally prompted me to be a bit snarky and post this in the heat of the moment. He hadn't expected me to be staying over or he would have 'hidden the evidence' as it were. It's like he's ashamed of it.

It's something I can't quite put my finger on. Maybe his more secretive attitude is because of his age? He's the oldest guy I've been with by over 20 years and in the past with others porn has always been part of a good sex life. It spiced things up. I've tried to be philosophical, I'm ok looking but at my age but I've had my day and my body isn't going to be enough to keep any man's exclusive interest. It's been a trickier thing to deal with when sex is going down the pan and I can't arouse him anymore.

It's very difficult and frustrating for both of us, we aren't married or living together, so that's why it is time to start considering how much more of this we can put each other through.

I actually had a guy admit that he needs his little blue friend to get it up. Surprised me but he is also the one who limits his women to non plus size ones. If he had a real hand full, he might do better!!

^ You go Girl! :)

Nothing wrong with the little blue pill. Lets me fuck my wife like a porn star! :)

This guy is more than 20 years older than you?
YIkes!
Get a younger dude!

Ha ha no, sorry, I meant that the oldest guy I've ever been with apart from him was 20 years younger than he is now lol! Not sure if that still doesn't make sense!

They were 45 then when I was 47. That was 11 years ago. He's 67 now and I'm 58. So he's 9 years older. Lol

I don't think there is anything wrong with using a little blue friend. By all means use what you need. It is just I knew practically nothing about it. Never had anyone admit he needed it before!

Hi Merry, it's such a shame that there's still this idea that a man has to 'admit' to taking a pill before he can get an erection. Like it's a crime or something to be hidden. As I now realise, it's an incredibly common issue. Like you the guys I'd known before this one had been sex machines! But not all men are.

And they often take it secretly rather then 'admit' they can't get it up. I'm pretty sure my partner took it without saying anything when we were first together. I'd know the giveaway signs now though.

I don't care if the man needs help. It is like when I needed estrogen patches to ease the hot flashes. It is just a helper in pill form or my patch. It really surprised me when he told me it took an hour and sometimes he couldn't get it up. Not the kind of man I imagined would have trouble. He is confident in every other way.

I know what you mean, my partner's very confident and charming, very good with women. He still gives off the impression that he's able to give you a good time. Probably because he always was, so he's still got that air about him.

Just shows you never can tell