Lauren you obviously have some issues.
This is my frist real boyfriend and ive been taken away from everything ive ever know. I'm sorry you feel the need to be so hurtful. Maybe you need to do some soul searching yourself.

As for the rest of you thank you for the support and advice. I do need to leave and reading this has made it very clear

freakchic you make a very good point and I didn't think about that. I'm definitely the less knowledgeable about this stuff but I do know that the power to act is within her (Bonnie). It's there, I just hope you (Bonnie) find it.

Lauren, aka Fatherof4, take a hike you stupid fuck. Your charade is so old and overdone. You have no place in this serious matter.

(((((Bonnie))))))
Tons of good advice to use in escaping a very volatile situation. My hopes are you take this advice, expand upon it and find for yourself that you truly are worthy of a better situation and life. There is strength in numbers and as you have read here, many have escaped to prosperity, sadly, many stick it out in hopes of making things work, only to vanish from life.



As for #15, I readily admit to not being a nice person all the time, still I do try to refrain from being a total idiot. Making a comment here is fine in nearly every aspect, some are made in jest, others are made in complete seriousness, then there are some made to reflect a lack of interest.
Yours, IMO, was made in poor taste, made in a malicious manner, aimed at hurting and disturbing for the OP.
While I do not know your reasoning for many of your comments and threads, I do completely believe that every dog has his day, your cruelties will be addressed in time and once again you will be gone. Still, like a cockroach, you will return, a different name, a different persona. The stories will be similar, the results and replies similar as well, point is, you choose your own path. My suggestion for you, drive down GETALIFE hwy, turn on SCUMSUCKINGDOG rd and follow it til the pavement ends at BACKTHEHELLOFF gulch. Please drive fast
Good day.

Bonnie, I don't know you and I am not a ' member' of this group , but I do read posts . You have gotten alot of great advice and it is obvious that you are very cared about by the members here and they are concerned and they want you to be safe. I too want you to be safe and I am so sorry you are in the situation you are. I wish the very best for you and I wish you the strength to do what is the best thing for you to do . I believe you know what it is and I know it can't be easy.

as for Laurenwhatthehell ever , shame on YOU. I hope that you have been reported. I will go report you now just for good measure. You are beyond pathetic.

Bonnie, sending you comforting hugs.

LMT

Bonnie, if you have no one to help you, no one to talk too, then please walk into a church and and talk to a priest or a pastor or even a rabbi in a synagog. Tell them you need Someone to listen to you. They won't turn you away. And more importantly, someone will listen to what you have to say.
Saying the words out loud to someone can help. One step at a time will help get you away from the Ogre.

Lauren, look at you - the pot calling the kettle black. Go get yourself some professional help.

To fullmetalheart - in case you may need further clarification of what an abuser is, I provide two web site links which I have recommended in the past to others in your same situation. Unlike some, many here want what is best for you.

http://we-are-survivors.webs.com/abusercharacteristics.htm

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm


To LaurenWilmanson I also recommend you look at the web site links as well. But please be careful, sometimes it is hard to look in the mirror and see yourself.

I don't know what's real on this board sometimes.Some things never change.Seriously just leave.Yea it's hard but it's either that or possibly die one day..just because he is your first real boyfriend doesn't mean there aren't thousands of other guys that want to be with you and won't hurt you

LOOK HUN !

I AM GOING TO LAY THIS OUT VERY SIPLY FOR YOU !

Normal male behavior would be to beat your man to a bloody pulp and then kick him dry!

Please for the sake of your self find some love for you and see what your worth ! There is a whole world of men out there and many of them will take great care of you if you give them a chance!

You have to love yourself before you can find someone right to love you ! What you have with him IS NOT LOVE it is fear !

Bonnie. ...I lived with a guy for five years. I thought we were in love. I thought we were going to ge married. He never really hit me, but he would get rough and grab me, he would get mad and thow things and break them. Usually not at me, but sometimes I got hit by them anyway. He never told me I was worthless, but everything that came out of his mouth made me feel like I wasn't good enough, like I wasnt trying hard enough. Like it was my fault that he was unhappy. My fault that I was unhappy. Eventually he cheated on me (Thank God! ) and that was the one thing I wouldn't stand for, so I managed to leave him. The whole time I thought that's just what happened behind closed doors. That all guys had temper-tantrums like that. And I had believed that the things he said were true, that I wasn't trying hard enough to make things good.

Eventually I figured out that I was actually much happier being on my own then I ever was with him. and then shortly after that i met my boyfriend. He has never in three years thouched me with anything but tenderness. He gets concerned when i stubb my toe, or my hair gets caught and pulled in something. He refuses to let me cry anywhere but on his shoulder whenever he is around. His arms feel like the absolute safest place in the world to me. And instead of tearing me down for not trying hard enough, he reminds me to be patient, and keep trying, and supports me when i get frustrated with things.

Bonnie, that us what a man should be. And they are out there. You just have to be willing to put yourself in a position where you can meet and fall in love with one. As long as you stay with this boy (I call him a boy because he us not acting like a man) you will never give yourself the opportunity to meet a man.

Im looking for someone to be a friend and a partner in life. I know I'm not the only one. Where ever your at, I'm sure you can find someone better than that. just leave