Healthy Sex Support Group
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Okay. So this is very personal and uncomfortable for me and I'm not sure how to address this............
When I was 15 I was raped. I lost my virginity at 18. I am 24 now. Since then I have had quite a few partners but have never, ever had an orgasm. I am able to give myself one whenever I want and porn has helped me a lot. Why can't I have an orgasm? Is it because I have been watching porn and my mind has connected orgasms to that act?
Or is it because I am just terrified of that vulnerability with someone else and can only experience it when I am alone?
I dont even know what an orgasm through sex feels like or should feel like and that scares me a lot. Sometimes I feel as though it may happen but I panic and I think it just goes away immediately.
I think I am terrified of feeling vulnerable. I dont know what is going to happen and the unknown...while someone is there with me...is a scary thing. Does anyone have any advice for me?
I dont know if subconsciously what I went through when I was 15 could be playing into all of this. I feel like mentally I have accepted what has happened to me despite how confusing and painful it was at the time.......
Maybe I am feeling mixtures of disgust and pleasure when it comes to sex because of what happened to me?
Oy. How can I get past this?
Maybe someone can talk me through their experiences when they first orgasmed with a male and maybe I wont feel so scared and intimidated? Thank you all so much
When I was 15 I was raped. I lost my virginity at 18. I am 24 now. Since then I have had quite a few partners but have never, ever had an orgasm. I am able to give myself one whenever I want and porn has helped me a lot. Why can't I have an orgasm? Is it because I have been watching porn and my mind has connected orgasms to that act?
Or is it because I am just terrified of that vulnerability with someone else and can only experience it when I am alone?
I dont even know what an orgasm through sex feels like or should feel like and that scares me a lot. Sometimes I feel as though it may happen but I panic and I think it just goes away immediately.
I think I am terrified of feeling vulnerable. I dont know what is going to happen and the unknown...while someone is there with me...is a scary thing. Does anyone have any advice for me?
I dont know if subconsciously what I went through when I was 15 could be playing into all of this. I feel like mentally I have accepted what has happened to me despite how confusing and painful it was at the time.......
Maybe I am feeling mixtures of disgust and pleasure when it comes to sex because of what happened to me?
Oy. How can I get past this?
Maybe someone can talk me through their experiences when they first orgasmed with a male and maybe I wont feel so scared and intimidated? Thank you all so much
That is not necessarily true.
Explore all options in regards to this.
Or are you saying, jim, that she may have something wrong with her gynecology medically?
Most cannot, luck of the draw.